[LuckyRed]

i am the caregiver for my 82 year old mother. I have had much physical, mental and verbal abuse in my life. Verbal, from my mother. It seems like she is taking all of her anger, bitterness and depression out on me. When this happens I have horrible nightmares of abuse, wake up with my heart pounding and I start talking in my sleep. I can't talk to her about it because she does not really care. Any suggestions? This is really disturbing me.

[heatherm]

{{{{{LuckyRed}}}}}}}

You are in a hard position...do you have any other family members that you could talk to? In our area there are support groups for caregivers....it is something that you could look into as well. Talk to your doctor and he/she should know what is available in your area. You will meet with others in the same or similar situation as you are in. Being a caregiver is mentally and physically demanding and your health is more important.

Remember to take care of yourself too.


Heather

"The Pessimist complains about the wind, the Optimist expects it to change and the REALIST adjusts his sails." ~~~author unknown

[bluesky]

Hi,
I am a caregiver too, so if you are still on the board on this topic,
can you write back? My mother is also 82 and at times she can
be difficult. I find distractions, pleasurable to my mother really help
her stay in a good mood. These do not have to be expensive.
Do you have a family doctor you can talk
to? Do you try and have some time for yourself? All this is really important. Despite our occassional differences of opinion, I love my
mum. She too has had a hard life and so have I, so I have compassion
for her. I also realise some old people have their days when they
feel angry or frustrated and they can relive the past as if it were
yesterday. Anyway, let me know if you are still reading this topic.
Bluesky