Momma always said...

She said if you have nothing nice to say then don't say anything @ all. But Momma also is not very loving. And, she has never accepted who I am. And she says she loves God but she treats people meanly.
And, she never realized how much I changed when "he" started touching me and hurting me. And she never gave it a thought that maybe I needed more attention from her.
But, she always said if you have nothing nice to say then don't say anything...Well, Momma; " F U! "

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i'm sorry your mom wasn't there for you. i'm sorry that she still ins't. i know that pain.

Hi!!

I am so sorry you have this pain. My mother never really loved me. It was always my brothers. It sure does hurt.

((((((((((((sj))))))))))))) I agree that your Momma wasn't very loving. My dad used to say the same thing. I think many parents say that and it only encourages us to keep our true thoughts and feelings to ourselves ......that can't be good!

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I understand. I am sorry your mom doesnt give you the love, and attention you so deserve.

Huggles,

Jen

Interesting to hear this kind of thing from people who love God. Not to turn this into a religious discussion, but I can think of no religion that portrays God as always saying "nice" things.

sj . . . thank you for sharing that

my Moma always said that too . . . i didn't realize what affects it had on me . . . i thought it was only a positive statement.

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My Mom would never say a thing like that. She likes to dish dirt.
It sounds like your Mom may be suffering from a tad bit of self-righteousness? I don't know.
Try to forgive her for not being the "perfect" mother. I know, it's hard, especially when she's REALLY getting on your nerves.
But, you really love your Mom and she loves you. It's all getting mistranslated, though.
Reading some of the posts on here about people's moms' dying and losing people they love through death has made me step back and try to accept my mother's faults.
We can be so hard on our Moms. They're just people, too, ya' know?
I'm not sticking up for your Mom's actions-I just think we have to be "the adults" sometimes when it comes to our mothers. It's hard to swallow that because she's supposed to be the nuturer.
Deep down inside they really, truely believe they're doing the best thing for you. They really don't know any better. We can only try not to make the same mistakes in our lives.
I hope you find the wisdom to understand your mother's actions and forgive her for not understanding you in return.
I pray for that for me and my Mom. She's got lots of faults too.

Jax:
Ummm...I care deeply for you!
Please know I really do not love my Mother....and I am not really sure she loves me.
But, thanks for the encouragement nonetheless.

I'm sorry.