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Feb 17, 2011, 08:29 PM
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My parents have been emotionally abusing me (Mostly my Dad) for as long as I can remember. I hate myself because of it. Thanks so much for doing this to me, making my brother think he's ugly, making my mom depressed, and making my dogs miserable.
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Feb 17, 2011, 08:49 PM
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My parents were emotionally abusive.
I had to eventually claim my own life, rescue myself from them. With the help of a lot of good therapy. I felt (and sometimes still feel) guilty, somehow to blame, scared, unworthy of a good life, evil, and worthless. Experiencing emotional abuse is painful. Can you get away from them soon?
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Feb 17, 2011, 09:04 PM
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I'll be eighteen in a few months. Once I have a job, I can save up for a house..
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Feb 17, 2011, 09:18 PM
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Hi,
Im 32 years old this year, I grew up with 2 emotionally abusive parents, similar situation my father is extremely cynical and self absorbed and I guess my mother has adopted a similar personality trait, they had me on meds before I left high school (15 years old) as it was obviously a way more convenient option, than actually taking the time to be loving parents and show compassion. I wonder if it occurred to them that 15 years later I would still be taking pills in an effort to be the son they wanted me to be.
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Feb 17, 2011, 10:27 PM
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I'm sorry jonbonjovi.
 I wish my Dad would just say I did a good job once... 
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Feb 17, 2011, 10:57 PM
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it is so hard to want just a little approval from parents who can't seem to give it.
I'm 31 now and I know that my parents 'love' me. but I also know they don't approve of pretty much anything about me. I got married too young, I didn't go to college, I had too many kids too close together, I homeschool instead of sending my kids to public school, I don't discipline the way they did, my appearance is weird at best, I don't keep my house clean enough, I don't visit often enough (don't have a vehicle that will hold us all), I don't manage money as well as I should, and (worst of all) I bring up things from the past that ought to be left alone. I've given up on trying to gain their approval. but that doesn't mean I can stop myself from wishing I could have it.
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Feb 18, 2011, 12:21 AM
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I was married to an emotional abuser. It got to the point I didn't even have my own thoughts. I felt like the dumbest ugliest most annoying woman alive. I feared to make any kind of mistake because he would just lay into me saying how he knew I would mess up and this kind of stuff always happens when I do things. If he messed up well it's my fault for not helping him with it.
My mom is borderline with the emotional abuse. I think alot of it comes from her upbringing of women should be quiet and submissive. She trys to control with guilt and playing the martyr. In her day women didn't openly control the house. It was hurtful when I told her about my husband's emotional abuse she basically shrugged it off as if it wasn't real. That hurt. We have grown apart a bit because I do things in my life she doesnt' approve of and still tries to control me with guilt. I know parents aren't perfect. I just wish she would admit she wasn't perfect and maybe did a few wrong things over the years. I hope your situation gets better. Moving out is always a good option when it's available. hopefully you have a safe place to get away when things get too bad. I had a friend growing up who's family was like the neighborhood family. They were always good for a dinner and advice.
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Feb 18, 2011, 02:05 AM
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I remember as a young lad say about 12, mum was packed ready to leave him had my sister packed up, I just couldnt go, I new he'd end his life. they went and I stayed they eventually returned a month later. Emotional abuse and emotional blackmail went hand in hand in my case. def leads to confusion and anger later down the track. if i had a chance and the courage to put my life first back then maybe i wouldnt be reliant on meds now. but i am lucky he wasnt a phisically violent man. and also feel privaliged to write on your thread. keep your chin up 
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Feb 18, 2011, 07:12 AM
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Feb 18, 2011, 08:32 AM
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Thanks everyone. I'm so sorry to hear all this. I would never wish this on anyone.
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Feb 18, 2011, 10:01 AM
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Hi DTM, welcome to PC. I'm sorry that you didn't get the upbringing that you deserved....... I will look forward to interacting with you more here.
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Feb 18, 2011, 10:17 AM
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Thanks Sannah
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Feb 18, 2011, 10:24 AM
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A lot of people here have suffered emotional abuse so I'm sure you will find people to relate to on here. I was emotionally/mentally abused for a long time, on top of other abuse and neglect, and it does extremely suck. The abuse doesn't have to show physical marks to be damaging. One of the hardest parts of it is that a lot of people only pay attention to physical abuse and you get unnoticed. To me, abuse is abuse.
The way it manipulated my way of thinking and who I am is still here years later. It's shaped me as a person and affects my way of life extremely. Get help now before it takes over you. |
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Feb 18, 2011, 10:42 AM
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Thank you Evening. I agree.
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Feb 18, 2011, 01:34 PM
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The Verbally Abusive Relationship by Patricia Evans saved my life. Abusers abuse you, not because there is anything wrong with you, but something is wrong in their lives. They have issues they haven't dealt with. Hugs
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Feb 19, 2011, 04:05 AM
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hello don't touch me
i was emotionally abused and still feel the guilt from my childhood I'm 25 now with 2 children of my own i promise to never make the same mistake with them !! i have managed to get over my childhood but the guilt will never go away i still want a 'well done or I'm proud of you' i get it FM my children and husband but my mum and dad (who i need to hear it from) I'm now training to become a mental health nurse and still no recognition for my achievements. hope you find it in your heart to slowly get over your abuse and love yourself and do what ever makes you happy.
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