Visit to my mother

Mother- Oh my god, you don’t look awful!

Me- Hi Mom

Mother- They told me you look awful. Like a dead person walking on the earth.

Me- So how are you Mom?

Mother- I think you even look good. Probably because you are enjoying yourself away from me!

Me- You’re looking great Mom.

Mother- You think so? (Smile). Everyone says I look younger then my age.

Me- Oh yes! You really do!

Mother- It surely is not because of the love of my children.

Me- Oh your Christmas tree is pretty!

Mother- Oh yes, I bought all news decorations. The other ones were much too old. I decorated myself. I was so tired after all this work. Of course none of my children would have come to help me out. All too busy they say! As if I believe that. I might be old but I am not dumb.

Me- I see that you are taking good care of yourself. You really look great!

Mother- Well I was sick but of course you wouldn’t knew. You are too busy! I went to the hospital.

Me- You did? What happened?

Mother- I was so afraid! I cry and I cry. But you couldn’t hear me. I needed someone beside me and you were not there.

Me- You were alone?

Mother- Yes!

Me- Who brought you there? Did you call a taxi? Did you call an ambulance?

Mother- I don’t have money for a taxi and I hate ambulance. Your brother and his wife took me in their car.

Me- Did they stay with you?

Mother- Well…Yes they did!…….But it’s you I wanted……..But you were gone…….You didn’t care what would happened to me!

Me- What was it for Mom? Why did you go to the hospital?

Mother- It was a one-day surgery for my eyes. I don’t know what they call it.

Me- Cataract.

Mother- Yes.

Me- Is you sight better?

Mother- Oh yes! I can surely see that you don’t look awful. You must be enjoying your life!

Me-……….
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Mother- So how are your children?

Me- They are good.

Mother- They will be old by the time I see them.

Me- ………

Mother- Tell them I love them and I would like to see them.

Me- I will.

Mother- Are they too busy too?

Me- They have their life to live.

Mother- Are you a good mother at least? Poor children.

Me- ……..

Mother- Your 2 sisters and brother has invited me to their home for the Holidays.

Me- That’s good. I’m glad they did.

Mother- I’m not sure if I’m going.

Me- No?

Mother- No, they are loud and always complaining about this and that. It’s very tiring to be around them.

Me-……….

Mother- But I might go. I have no other place to go too. I guess you are too busy to have your mother around for the Holidays?

Me- I…..will not be home…..My children has invited me to their home.

Mother- You are lucky! At least they love their mother and they think about her.

Me- I have to go now. I have to drive back and snow is starting to fall.

Mother- Yes we are going to have a storm. I guess you better go. Oh I wanted to ask you something.

Me- yes?

Mother- Do you visit your siblings?

Me- No, I don’t.

Mother- Probably better that way. They hate you anyway.

Me-………

Mother- I will tell them you came to visit me. It will make them jealous. He he

Me- Ok I better go now. Take good care of yourself!

Mother- I have too. Nobody care for me anyway.


time0

[MacD]

Your Mother - I am a sad creature who feeds upon heaping guilt on her children.....the good lord himself could not please me and I live to get a reaction out of you.....
You - I love her despite her cripling and hurtful insecurity and do a darn good job of coping w/her attempts to "suck the emotional life out of me"

me - "sounds familiar"

hang in there - grace

[sara1010]

Time!!!!

How do you know my mother?!?!?!?!

LOL!!!

This is soooo much like her. I had a phone conversation with her a few nights ago I will put out here this evening. I gained some insight to her distructive ways during and after.

[Lexicon78]

I think it's awful how you're mother talks to you. Yes, she seems to try to drain the life out of you just by conversation! I hope that in time she will treat you better. You are doing a good job in dealing with her. Much better than I would do.

(((((time0)))))

You don't deserve that.

Petunia

Thank you for your understanding and precious words!

[Gracey]

Ok, I am convinced your mother and mine and my aunts are all twins. . .or quads? something like that.

This is why I believe it should be perfectly legal to drug family members.

Familly is tough to deal with. That's why I took a step back but my familly do not accept my decision. They would have prefered I would have stayed around but I couldn't anymore. I even went over my limit with them. Trying and trying. But still something went wrong when I was a child because everybody in my familly cannot stand me or they like to hurt me. Something like that. In my heart I still don't know why. I probably will never know why. All I know if I didn't look like them so much physically I would swear I'm from a different familly.

I'm sorry you are having a hard time with your familly too.

(((((((((((((Grace)))))))))))))

[Overcastbutclearing]

I had no idea I had an older sister....
Gosh, we are so cute!

Seriously, I totally understand the chat between you and your mother...now add a flare of me being a lesbian and my parents and brother and his family all be christians...
Maybe we could all write a book on the chitchats we have w/ the family we are supposed to unconditionally love and be loved by????

[BlueFaith]

I'm sorry time0. I know this kind of pain, too. I think if all of us here that have problems with our loved ones like this were to write a book about it... it would be one huge book. Sad. ((((time0))))

[Gracey]

Why can't we just drug their food? Hey. . .then maybe we wouldn't need OUR meds.