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#1
Dec 06, 2011, 11:34 AM
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So yesterday i had a group at hospital. At the start of it the nurses talked about assertiveness "people taking advantage of you, not being able to say no etc" I got anxious and triggered straight away breathing too fast but tried to stay in the room. Then this guy said "i used to be passive now i am attacking people" and he began raising his voice and explaining the things he does. I just ran out of the room. Found a bench to sit on then had to take a lot of deep breaths to get my breathing in control while i shook and cried uncontrollably. It was horrible. I told one of the nurses in the office that i just took a big panic attack she told me to get a drink and to try and bring it down. I really didn't want to go back in to the group once i had calmed down but did and then i was anxious for the rest of the group. I asked to see the female nurse who ran the group but she was busy straight after it so she said the male nurse was free. I said that was ok but then i just thought i can't speak to a man about the rape, abuse and issues with men so i just left without getting support. I came home and just sobbed and cried for the rest of the afternoon. Tried phoning to get hold of a female nurse but they were all in a meeting and haven't phoned me today. I feel hellish today now. I just need to get this out of me.
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Dec 06, 2011, 12:50 PM
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I REALLY wish I could give you a gentle hug (if that's ok) My experience with abuse is very different to yours so I won't pretend to understand, but couldn't leave your post responseless. I hope you get the help and support you need soon.
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#3
Dec 06, 2011, 03:38 PM
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hi fairy.... my response to the situation you were in would probably have been very similar to yours. i have a similarish back round of abuse as you. people who show anger scare me, then it makes me mad to be scared and so then i cry.anyways i feel for you...you should be very proud of yourself for going back in...that had to be extremely hard to do .i hope that you are able to take good care of you during these hard times......
 gentle hugs if okay........kasva
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#4
Dec 06, 2011, 05:15 PM
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Ok, Fairy take deep breaths. I certainly cant blame you for being triggered by that man. But you have to realize something about the group you are in, other people in that group are troubled too and they are learning new coping methods as well. You are trying to overcome being a victim and that takes time and your slowly going to learn methods in self soothing and also how you interact with others that will give you ways of establishing boundaries. Victims of abuse never really learn that and as a result many victims struggle in relationships and feeling confident in themselves as they interact with others.
Right now you cant help but react to certain situations. And you can get triggered, but now is when you want to learn what triggers you and let it out so you can address it and learn ways to overcome it. Listen, when you go to these therapy sessions you have to truely think about these sessions as a workshop where you are protected and if something triggers you it should be addressed and overcome in the workshop. I think it would be a good idea to plan on discussing in the workshop that you were triggered by this man and you reacted and then see if the group can help you slowly find comfort with the other members and allow yourself to work out your fears. No one can take away or change your past, but you can find ways to put it in its place and find self calming soothing ways to help yourself recover from your past. No one has helped you do that yet, now you are going to learn and it is going to take time. That is exactly what this group is for, slowly getting more and more confident and comfortable around other people and developing new ways to do this better. It is good that you also joined PC because this is a supportive site and as you are dealing with group and therapy you can come here just as you did here and be able to talk it out. Writing your feelings out is good because it helps you get these thoughts out rather than hold them in to continue to worry you. You are welcome to come here anytime for this, there are many others here that are so very supportive. And though we may have different experiences we all know how it feels and we all have our triggers as well. Your not alone, getting therapy and being in a support group will make a difference in time. (((((Hugs)))))) Open Eyes |
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Dec 06, 2011, 08:29 PM
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I empathize with this. When my aunt died, I could not reach out for support; I was too upset. Then the counselor said she would be outside (2009) and she wasn't. I was really upset about that. Then they said, "Billi, you could have knocked on her door". and I said, "She said she would be outside". I could not reach out. I needed her to be there. I was just not in a place to reach out, but I still needed help. sometimes it's hard to ask for things. And then when we do and no one answers (nurses in a meeting, in your case, and not calling you back) it can feel really bad. Billi
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