[SerenitysWave]

<font color="purple"> A HUGE burden has just been lifted from me! I couldnt hold it in any long, I couldnt allow the abuse that I endured growing up control me by being silent anymore. 30 yrs is a long time to carry this all inside! I decided to write my parents a letter. That way they had a chance to process what I was telling them and I would be able to process the idea that my truth was now known. I wanted to also be in control of what details I was willing to share and be able to get out all that I needed. It worked out well. I dropped it off and left it on my dad's table. They called me after they read it and discussed it. I have their 100% support in my decisions regarding therapy. I was so afraid that they would pressure me to tell them who the absuers were, but they didnt. They RESPECTED my wishes! I am so releived. A part of me thought that I might be rejected or that it would be all about them, or that I wouldnt be believed or who knows what else. Such a big step! I hope this helps brings us closer and that it has given them so more of an understanding about me and who I am. I really feel like I am on my way to a better quality of life and healing. </font>

[lenjan]

Good for you! I know what a huge step that is. I'm glad it made you feel better!

Candy

[kimmydawn]

WOW! That couldn't have worked out better! Thank you so much for telling us!

I'm so happy for you! How brave!

KD

[bipolar_bear]

I am so glad they are being supportive while not making you divulge the details. It sounds like it worked out great.

wow. I truely admire your strength!

[SerenitysWave]

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Good for you! I know what a huge step that is. I'm glad it made you feel better!

Candy

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<font color="purple">Thank you Candy.... I had stressed over it for a long time and more so this past few months and WOW! I feel so fortunate that it worked out so well. It was such a big step forward for me and probably for my relationship with my parents as well. </font>

[SerenitysWave]

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WOW! That couldn't have worked out better! Thank you so much for telling us!

I'm so happy for you! How brave!

KD

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<font color="purple"> Thank you Kimmy! I did a lot of praying to have the strength to follow through with telling them, and I am so glad I did. I explained to them what was important to me that I get from them: their support, encoiuragement, hearing I love you, prayers, and that this is about me and my healing and not revenge or woulda shoulda couldas or only ifs.... that was then thsi is now and its about helping me be me and not just a perosn with anxiety/panic disorder, bipolar, ocd, ptsd, s/i, BPD, bord schiz, etc....... but a daughter, mother, sister, wife, friend... lol not sure where I was going with that, but I feel good..... </font>

[SerenitysWave]

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I am so glad they are being supportive while not making you divulge the details. It sounds like it worked out great.

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<font color="purple"> Thank you bipolar_bear! I was worried about that, I wasnt sure how it was going pan out, but thankfully they truly respect my wishes and said if at any time I want to talk more about it or want to discuss any details that they are there for me. They said that would even go with me to T if I want them too, either to be in sessions with me or if just need a ride. I am in amazement of this. Its hard to explain, as you all dont know my family, but I really feel so loved by them right now and that is HUGE! I know I have a lot of work a head of me, but this is such a great start to the journey....</font>

[SerenitysWave]

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wow. I truely admire your strength!

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<font color="purple"> Thank you esthersvirtue! I must say tho, I could not have followed through if I did not have God with me.... He gave me the strength, and I am so blessed. But now that the last piece has been opened I know I can get thru the rest and have peace.... I can fully deal with all that has happened, and the s abuse is only a quarter of it. Right now I am just enjoying having that wieght lifted off my shoulders..... </font>

[Rhapsody]

((((((( HUGS )))))))

Good for YOU - that was a brave and courage's thing to do, with you not knowing how they would react. I now hope and pray for their continual support in your healing.

LoVe,
Rhapsody -

[SerenitysWave]

<font color="purple">Thank you Rhapsody! Joruney has begun and I know I will be ok, will be rough I know but I know I will be ok.... </font>

[wisewoman]

I am so very happy for you. Good job for speaking up.

[wi_fighter]

Way to go SW. Good for you.