[Girlio]

What is my problem? I'd like to say, just GET OVER IT. I feel...dramatic and pathetic. I just can't get the 'bad' that has happened in my life out of my head. Everything reminds me of something. Everything is a reminder. Of my screwed up family. Of abuse. Of sad times and hard times and bad moments. How do I fix this? How do I just move on? How do I let go so that I can experience life without it always bringing up my past to haunt me?

[Open Eyes]

((((Girlio)))),

Do you see a therapist? I have PTSD and that is how I feel, and what I wonder as well. The bottom line is that until you work through it you will have these struggles.

((((Hugs)))

Open Eyes

[haier]

girlo..unfortunately you cannot "get over it", i'm so sorry. i feel the same way. i struggle with so much and am triggered by almost anything. i do a lot of reading and i try my best to work on myself. and yes, you need therapy cause apparently we can't do it alone.

[BrokenNBeautiful]

I feel similarly about this: "Just get over it already, Billi!" And "Why can't you function like other survivors? They can do this or that."

And I have to remind myself that everyone's experience is different and everyone's reaction to an experience is different.

And to not beat myself up if I seem to be "weak" or fall short of an expectation of myself.

Billi

[Sannah]

You can't just get over it but you can work through it. Do you have a therapist?

[Emptty]

have the same question as the others, are you in therapy? If not it sure would help. Painful experiences stay with you forever, part of therapy and life is learning to recognize that it hurts and learn to coexist with the hurt memories. The body and mind always remember pain but I promise you it will get better. It may be bad for a long time but there is a light at the end of the tunnel that you have to keep your eyes on in order to survive. Take care of yourself, you have my support if that means anything... good luck and keep your chin up.

[shezbut]

(((girlio)))

I've yelled that to myself more times than I could possibly count.

I have been in therapy for almost 30 years, with one T or another, trying to get through this baggage. Just the last couple of years is when I've finally talked about incest and the emotional/physical abuse from my brother. All of that's been swept under the rug by my family.

It took some time and a lot of stress for me to finally realize that I need space from my family. That's pretty new for me too. My parents aren't ever going to change, nor will my brother or sister. My uncles and aunt only remind me of sick things they let me do (encouraged me) when I was a little girl. All very dark memories that hurt. I think that it's best, for me, to take some space away from my family and pay attention to my daughters and myself....in hopes that I'll someday accept it and that these horrible memories won't haunt my daughters. That's a HUGE hope of mine!

Gentle hugs to you.....