[Typo]

my greatgrandfather passed away two weeks ago

he had a will and left everything to my mom and her older sister to split 50/50 between them, and that their other siblings (one who is in and out of prision and stole money from my greatgrandparents, and the other their brother who is my abuser and abused my above mentioned aunt, which my mom and her older sister know of and didn't doubt the truth of) were to recieve NOTHING

My mom and her older sister decied to give them both a something. I am ENRAGED that they are going against my greatgrandfather's wishes

I am more upset they think they have to, my dad tried to talk them out of it, because he fears they will get greedy and try and contest the will and that he thinks it is wrong for them to get anything seeing as how they treated my greatgrandparents when they were alive

I'm raw, Im hurting, and this triggers so much for me on top of the trigger that was my greatgrandfather passing away

My greatgrandparents meant a lot to me, they were some of the few happy memories I can recall from my childhood. It was hard to say goodbye to my greatgrandmother 6 years ago, and watching my greatgrandfather pass away opened up that hurt plus new hurt of having to say goodbye to him too

I'm raw, I"m just...trying to keep myself togehter. I buried my childhood it feels like.

I'm so mad, I'm so sad, I'm trying to stay together, I"m trying to stay clear of all of this but it is hard, it is so hard.

[shezbut]

I'm so sorry Typo. Times like these are always challenging, even in healthy families. But the abuse really makes the process even more painful and upsetting, I can imagine.

Try not to get wrapped up in the baloney of your great-grandfather's remaining monies. Instead, try to keep your focus upon the wonderful memories that you do have of him. It's terrific that you had a happy, healthy relationship with your great-grandfather! Hopefully, you have some nice pictures to refer back to as well.

I hope that your mother and aunt stand up for the decision your great-grandfather made. If it has to go to court, so be it. But, I'd highly recommend that you stay out of it and focus on that emotional bond you built.

Very gentle hugs to you...

[Typo]

Thank you for the advice Shezbut

It's just hard to stay out, I want to make sure my mom is okay and not getting taken advantage of, I know me and my mom have our problems but she is still my mom and I am protective of her and my family

I am doing best to stay clear away from it all, I live an hour away so I can't be too directly involved just keeping an eye on things for my mom's sake and making sure my dad and sister are okay

I stayed up last night, because I couldn't sleep, usually I go to bed with my boyfriend but he went to bed very early because he has been working 12 hour days.

I stayed up and just ended up crying and crying. I eventually made it into bed and just continued to cry myself to sleep.

I feel very rageful, I feel sad, I feel empty, I feel unwanted....

[Sannah]

I agree, don't get yourself involved in this. Save your precious emotional energy.