I told somebody else!!!!

TRIGGER WARNING!!! Talk of rape.





My last session with T we were talking about the first and ever flasback that I had of the rape that happened to me when I was 10. T asked me if I told my husband about the flashback that I had. I said no and he asked why not. I said, because I have never really ever used the word rape with him as related to me. Before we got married, I shared with me that something had happened to me and he needed to know that. Did not go into details or anything. T encouraged me to explore why I didn't want to tell him any of it and if he is a safe person to tell.

Well, after having a horrible week and something happening the really triggered my feelings of being out of control/violated I decided that I really needed to be more detailed with my husband so he can understand more clearly what was going on with me. So, I told him tonight. He said he wasn't suprised that, rape was indeed what happend to me.. That has been what he thought all these years. He said I shouldn't ashamed, he is not ashamed of me, and it was not my fault.

It felt so good to tell somebody.. to use the word rape, instead of the incident to somebody other to my T. I think it has empowered to me keep sharing with my T more of the details and not keep it to myself so much!! Anyways, I just had to share this with somebody!!

I recently told my fiance about the past abuse I had never disclosed with anyone other than two t's. My t convinced me to tell him. It was one of the most incredible things to know he didn't blame me, to know he understood, to know he could tell before I even told him, and for him to still be with me, and not look at me any differently. It brought our relationship to a completely new level.

I am so happy for you that you have someone with you on this now. It's not you against your memories any more, you have support, you have someone who understands and cares, that's a precious precious thing. I am so happy that you have found this. While I am saddened at what you went through, I am happy for you in oppening up. It is great to know that some men really are that understanding isn't it? Take peace and comfort in knowing you are no longer alone in this battle, he's with you every step of the way

I wish you could 'like' things on here, and not just thank for them, because I would totally like this. Yay for you!

Well done for being so brave. :-)

Good for you. I hope to be where you are one day. I can't say the word "Rape" yet. My husband knows because I told him before we got married. But I was not certin it was rape. Now I am certin. I just thought it was assault of some sort. I concented out of fear for my life. It's scary to face your feelings. I hope you continue to grow and recover from this.

I told somebody else today, too She is my best friend I have known here for oh I don't know 15 years and hadn't every said anything. It was good to know that I could share with somebody and it was ok!

I am so honored that you shared with me!