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****Trigger for talk of Rape****************
I was raped in my neighborhood outisde where a lot of the neighborhood kids all hung out and played. Latley, I have been feeling considering going to where it happend. I still live in the area, and it is very close to my house. I can't answer for myself why I want to go there, or why I have such a strong feeling of being drawn there, but I can't stop thinking about. I do think, that maybe it will vailidate that it is something that really happend. I don't remember many details of the rape itself, but in my mind I can see everything aorund me and hear the sounds. I wonder, if I go back and I see or don't see the things in my mind, it will prove to myself that it really happend. Just wondering if anyone else has done this?? Any tips or advice?
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((((((healed84))))))
I have an early appointment tommorrow, so i have to get ready for bed. But i will come back to this thread SOON to give you a full response...for now ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() |
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I would think carefully about why you want to go there before you do. You should think about all the possible outcomes for visiting that place, and you should be okay with all of them before you decide to go. If possible it might be a good idea to take an understanding friend or family member with you, to make sure you stay safe?
I visited one very bad place from my past, but I visited because the building had burned down. It was okay, but it didn't feel good the way I thought it would to see the building destroyed. I felt the same. Whatever you decide, I hope it will turn out well for you. Please take care. Thank you for sharing this. |
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I went back to my old neighborhood and ironically I drive by it every time I go to the local college for a class. I drove down the road I used to live on once while seeing T1. She recommended I set up a support person for after my 'visit'. Since then I've been there a couple of times early this year. I kind of felt really odd and somehow transported back in time. It felt like the 5 year old me was sad and staring at me from a window. I just turned 40 and I buried this experience of abuse until 3 years ago.
I would chat with T first before going and have support waiting in the wings. ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() |
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((((healed84)))) I'm back.
Looking at this section of PC, its great to see that you have been making progress in working through what happened to you ![]() As i promised earlier, i did want to come back to consider pros and cons...Firstly, I am truly sorry for all happend to you. Secondly, i am someone who did have to approach *that spot* with the second incident. And thirdly, im also kinda someone who is also working up toward also approaching *that spot* where it first happened... ![]() On The One Hand.....you COULD go back... pros
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Coming back to check again....and there are no other responses after all that i threw out there...(?)
![]() ![]() Sorry for *me* being JUST TOO MUCH.... ((((to everyone out there)))) |
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I am sorry, I haven't gotten back to you. I have been in and out of here the last 7 days or so, b/c I have been on vacation. I do thank you for all of your advice, it was incrediably insightful and things I have been thinking about since reading it. I am planning on bringing it up to my T next week to see what he thinks about it. again, sorry for not getting back to you and thanks so much for your advice!!
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"You decide every moment of every day who you are and what you believe in. You get a second chance, every second." "You fail to recognize that it matters not what someone is born, but what they grow to be!" - J.K. Rowling. Harry Potter and the Goblet of Fire. |
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