[natani_girl]

Hey, all, again. I know... I only come on when I have to ask something... I'm such a jerk. Lots of things to focus on, and such... not much computer time...

Anyway, I wanted to ask about something that has... erm... bothered me for a while. Like, a very long time. And something I didn't (and still don't) really understand. It was kinda blocked out of my mind for a very long time, because it was embarrassing.

Well, when I was younger, I don't know why, but I had a very active sex drive. It wasn't just curiosity either, it was desire. And all I knew was that anything to do with genitals was very bad, So I was extremly embaressed and ashamed about it. And, well... lets just say that as a child, multiple things above the "natural behavior" category applied to me on this page. (Nothing that involved other children, though.) http://www.handsonscotland.co.uk/top...general.html#1 And those things were repetative, too. Very often. And i was a smart kid, so I got away with a lot of it.

Obviously, reading that page kinda distressed me. As a kid and past, I thought maybe there was just something wrong with me, physically, that made me sexual at a young age. But reading up on it, and just thinking about it, also told me that this could happen if a child was sexually abused. Now, I have no recollection of this, but I was very young... like, easily less than 4 or 5, when I first remember these sexual things about myself. And I WAS molested at an older age by a family member, so it's not impossible to consider... (I don't feeling like typing that all again.)

So, do you think my early great sexual desire could be caused by some form of sexual abuse that I can't remember, or maybe a biological fluke, or some other reason? It would be nice to get some answers, It's been in the back of my mind and bothering me for so long... I don't know why I was like that.

(BTW, when I was a little older and learned that behavior like mine was frowned upon, I stopped cold turkey. I now even have a purity ring and am known for my self control.)

(Sorry I was vague, but it's still kinda in the back of my mind... and it's just embaressing.)

[Sannah]

So your behavior was under the category of "cause for concern"? I would think that you would need to discuss this in more detail to find out. Do you have a T?

[Open Eyes]

(((nantani girl))),

Most children discover their sexual areas at a surprisingly young age. We are, sexual beings and children discover this but do not truely know what it means other than it feels good. And this is why it is "very important" to watch young children and talk to them about keeping this private and not sharing with other children. This is how children can explore with other children and not understand what it means. They can have trepidations about it but they don't quite understand it. And this is also a part to the guilt that can come from a child that may have been molested but it also felt good so they get confused. However a preditor uses this to convince children that it is good.

As adults and now understanding what it means, this can create a tremendous sence of personal guilt and can also be a big reason that adults don't want to discuss it.

The truth is that we are designed to be sexual beings. It is nothing to be ashamed about. No, you are not a feak, you are just human. This is something that is often overlooked by many parents that have more than one child. And it isn't really "talked about" so that a parent considers this becoming a problem with their own children. Children all explore and share in many areas it is just the way they are, so it would not be surprising that without a parent discussing this to their children, it can become a strange secret that takes place. It is "never" advisable for male and female children to sleep together and even play together unsupervised. I personally made sure my own daughter was told about it, AND to not share it with other children and to make sure "not" to allow other children to touch her etc either. My daughter got the message and came an told me her friend was being invaded by her brother and his friend. The mother was a single working mom and it was normal for her to leave her son and daughter alone in a "latch key" situation. Well, it lead to something bad happening and the mother was very surprised and embarassed when I told her what was going on with her daughter.

Personally, when my daughter was growing up I had her friends come to my home to play so I could watch my child and make sure she didn't experience this problem. And I truely feel that "all" parents need to sit with their children and make sure they understand what it means and to keep it to themselves.

Open Eyes

[Harley47]

Hi there.

I do agree with Sannah in that without some more information, it is hard to assess your question. I hate to have to ask that, as I know it is not something comfortably shared, but do know we're here to help.

But on the whole, Open Eyes said it best. We are, even (perhaps especially) at a young age, sexual beings, with innate desires and curiosity. If you were abused at a young age (which please allow me to say I am very sorry ), that introduces you to sex in a way most children have not been. Thus, I think it rather normal for you to engage in behavior outside of the realm of "normal" sexual behavior.

I'm not a doctor, and thus not qualified to make any sort of diagnosis, I would wager nearly anything that your behavior isn't physically or genetically rooted, and is likely a psychological one resulting from your abuse. For that, I recommend a t.

I would also commend you on the purity ring. That is, I think, very noble of you.

Please know if I can do anything for you, my PM box is open. I wish you all my very best.