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Jul 23, 2012, 04:27 AM
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I'm 15, and I have been raped multiple times. By the people I was in a relationship with. By a guy, I didn't even know. And, I was also raped/molested when I was 4, and 5, by my uncle. My current boyfriend, doesn't want to accept this, and still demands sex, whether i'm up for it, or not. The sexual abuse from my childhood, still really hurts me, and I still have horrible nightmares about it, and it really depresses me. The times that I have been raped, obviously hurt me, a lot, too. I don't know how i'm supposed to move on, and work on getting over this, when the person who I have been in a relationship with for 9 months, and who is my bestfriend, won't support me, or be there for me. Any advice on how to get over this, or what i'm supposed to do about my boyfriend? Please, can someone help?
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Jul 23, 2012, 02:00 PM
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Therapy iz needed to heal, and id highly advise you leave your boyfriend, demanding when you object is him doing just what the rest did. You dont have to explain no to him, no means no.
I wish so muchwhen i was 15, that i would have left my boyfriend sooner than i did. I left him due to a restraining order my mom put on him, we had been dating 9 minths and i called him on valentines day and broke free. He was similar to your boyfriend, and when i would tell him about my past abuse, he would use it to get sexual things from me, guilt me into doing it. Its been 10 years and it still effects me. My advice, get out before it causes any more damage |
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Jul 23, 2012, 02:57 PM
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Is there a way for you to see a therapist? Even though it might be hard, your boyfriend is abusive and is not a safe person for you. Do you have a family member or friend you can talk to?
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Jul 24, 2012, 08:40 AM
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Your boyfriend does not have the right to demand sex from you just because he is your boyfriend. Someone you are romantically involved with should be respectful of how you feel at all times. If he can't do that, then I must advise you distance yourself from him.
 I hope you will keep yourself safe.
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Jul 24, 2012, 07:57 PM
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His sick, twisted mind, was in control. I was the puppet, and he was the master... 
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Jul 25, 2012, 09:59 AM
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Oh Honey. I'm so sorry that you are in this predicament you are so young and don't deserve this. Do you still go to school?
Do you have counsellers there? Or an adult that is safe that can help you get help for what your going through? Have you gotten onto the RAINN website and checked out those resources and find out info to get you help? Do you have womens health clinics that are free in your area that you could turn to for assistance? Please strive to keep away from that boy and not be left in situations where your alone with him. Please. I don't know what else I can say.
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As a child you were not responsible for the actions/reactions of the adults who were responsible for you
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Jul 25, 2012, 10:05 AM
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Quote:
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His sick, twisted mind, was in control. I was the puppet, and he was the master...
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Jul 28, 2012, 06:11 PM
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I'm so sorry for all you've been through.
I would encourage you to leave the boyfriend. He's not in the least bit supportive and you need and deserve someone who is. You need time to heal before you can think about being with someone. Where I live, there are free counseling centers for people who have been abused or raped. Maybe you could go to someone like that? I told my mom I was going to do volunteer work...so I didn't have to tell her what I was really doing. Maybe then they could drive you, or a friend's parent? But either way, the boy has got to go. You're too good for him. |
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