Searching for abuser

I'm searching for the abuser from my childhood (CSA). I went to the town hall and couldn't get the info I needed.

Any good recommendations for websites for info?? I'm willing to pay $40 bucks to get more info but only if the website has a good database etc...

Geez is beating a war drum GOD help the person that abused me

geez, I don't know a good place to search. Do you even have a name? It sounds like you were searching propery records and didn't have any luck. Could it have been someone renting a property? If so the owner of the property at that time may have a name and where the person was from.

Let us know how you make out.

I tried getting info through marriage or death records. I have the married name at the time of my abusers mother (so I think her full name) and I have the name of his step father that was married to his mother at the time (for sure!).

At the town hall they asked me what I needed to look up and why. I just said I was looking for someone She then wanted to know if I was a private investigator. I looked at the towns website and told her they can provide info for deaths earlier than 1997 because the death records from 1997 onward contain social security numbers. I told her the approximate years of the death of my abusers mom and they looked up the death records and said there were lots of people with that last name but none with the first name I had. I also went to the town library to see if they had high school yearbooks ( i could look up my abuser by face there but they don't have any yearbooks for the years I need).

I did find 'I think' the location of my abusers step dad but how do I go about calling him and telling him I'm looking for his step son???

I also called an old friend from high school to see if she could help me. I 'bumped' into my abuser when I was in my senior year at a friend of a friends house. I'm going to get the name of my old high school friends friend and hopefully see if I can locate her. She could tell me his name as she was friends with him (he stopped by to see her).

That's all I have for now.

Anyone ever hire a private investigator??? How much does that cost???

I think you have turned over some important rocks geez. It sounds like that friend of a friend, if you can find her might be able to give you a location. It sounds like that is your best bet right now. Be patient and keep digging.

A private investigator? I don't know how much that costs.

Open Eyes

Well I found more info!!

I did some digging online and shelled out $6 and found everyone in my state named (john doe) via intellus.com . He was the step dad of my abuser and found out who he was married to via an online database called archives.com ( I have a free 7 day trial) through marriage records (in order to find my abuser I needed to find the previous married name of his mother - I didn't have that info. My mom was able to tell me when my abusers mom died approximation so I looked online via archives.com and found her death certificate. So next stop is to find her children (my abuser). I'm going to have to go to the library and look up the obituaries for the date that she died (around that date) - anyone who died before 2001 you can't find online for obituaries. Typically in the obituaries one can find 'survived by'. I also have a friend that works in law enforcement so I'm going to ask them to look up what I think could be my abusers name (my abuser was arrested before and has been to prison - but for other crimes not for CSA).

Keep you all posted. I so badly want to call T1 and say I found him!!!!!!