[Sanada]

When i was a kid (after mom died when i was 7) the adults made me have a bowl of soup only per day. They thought i was being fed at school but i refused to learn anything they tried to tell me (I would learn in my own time.) So i did not get any food at school. I would just go and climb trees as a kid and play foot ball and ride motor bikes that i stole. I also used to steal milk in the morn from peeps houses cause i knew i would not get enough whatever milk gives in the day.

I would get home (oh and btw , i was wild because of the frakin hypocrites that ran my life.) and i would be sent to my room, in the middle of summer and i could hear the other kids out side and i was starved.

I would be reading and i would smell the adults cooking. Beef steak , vegs peepers, salts etc etc etc etcetc etc etc etc .

I was beaten (but that was normal.) then i had to sit in a room and 'smell the cooking food'. I would then take a boot lace and chew it for the whole time i could hear them and smell the food.

In the end the adults would feel guilty, they would make me sit in front of a really nice meal and say to me 'say grace'? i was like frak you , go and rot in hell you bastards'. I will only pray in a church. They were so bad and they tried to be all 'i wrote poetry (published) and i am a mega peep in oil so you have to say grace to me'...i said frak you.

f*cking hell i hated them, they are dead now and i still hate them..

All it takes now to trigger me (as an adult) sometimes is the smell of food


sorry.
xxx

[Sanada]

also i went out and smashed the windows of innocent peeps houses and caused chaos.

Lesson = dont abuse

[amandalouise]

in some locations, cultures, religions, races....yes what you posted is abuse

that said

in some locations cultures, religions, races...no what you posted is not abuse...

something you need to know...

Earth is made up of many different locations (states, contents, countries), many different cultures, many different religions, many different races, many different just about everything. because of all this diversity that resides on this earth there is no one way things are...

example there are millions and millions of children and adults around the world and here in NY that dont even have that one bowl of soup a day, if they are lucky they manage to get maybe a bowl of soup once a week, children that are left to fend for their selves while their parents are off looking for work or working, sick what ever. its not abuse its just that they are homeless, parents got laid off because of budge cuts, parents lost their jobs in the recession... all kinds of reasons. sometimes parents have to do things like ration the food at home and expect the kids to eat the foods that are given out at school.

the same with all the other stuff in some locations, cultures, religions.....what have you it isnt abuse to hit,spank, and even beat their children...

to find out what is abuse and what isnt in your location (state, country, continent, culture....) contact a law enforcement person, social services person, doctor, therapist, teacher where you are. if what you posted is abuse they can help you

[PurpleFlyingMonkeys]

While AmandaLouise is right to some aspect I think the part where they would cook full meals for the adults wasn't fully read. Them using food to punish a child, the lack of food that is, and rubbing it in their face while making them go to the table to say grace, I'd say that yes, here in the US, starving your child as punishment is abuse. Even if you're from another country, it's dangerous, immoral and pretty low, most parents think nothing other than how they WILL feed their children.

It's sickening the things that go on in other countries and even in our own and it makes me so angry sometimes, when these people have someone standing up for their cruelty.

I'm sorry you went through that Sanada, I understand why you were such a frustrated child, it's not easy and is rather upsetting to be treated that way

[amandalouise]

Originally Posted by PurpleFlyingMonkeys

While AmandaLouise is right to some aspect I think the part where they would cook full meals for the adults wasn't fully read. Them using food to punish a child, the lack of food that is, and rubbing it in their face while making them go to the table to say grace, I'd say that yes, here in the US, starving your child as punishment is abuse. Even if you're from another country, it's dangerous, immoral and pretty low, most parents think nothing other than how they WILL feed their children.

It's sickening the things that go on in other countries and even in our own and it makes me so angry sometimes, when these people have someone standing up for their cruelty.

I'm sorry you went through that Sanada, I understand why you were such a frustrated child, it's not easy and is rather upsetting to be treated that way

thanks but yes I read that part... there is a few religions and cultures where the children are made to "fast" (be tempted by food and the smell of food but not able to partake in eating) for one my own indian culture.. I had to "fast" the week - days during "rites of passage" times, to prepare for "vision quests" and other cultural reasons.. as a child I didnt always understand why my parents were refusing me food, but yet tempting me with food by having me at the meal table, giving thanks, and being able to smell as the food was being cooks and other aspects that come with food, the prep of food, eating of food. it was only later as an adult that I remembered this happening and discovering it was part of my heritage/culture and not an abuse factor for me and my family.

my culture isnt the only one that does "fasting" where children/ young adults and adults are tempted /tested by foods.. one well knows religion Catholics (adults and children) for example have to "fast" and pay honor to their higher power by giving up their food items.

my point is children may "feel" something is abusive and it may be abuse depending upon their own culture, location and what have you but that doesnt mean its always going to be abuse when a child is deprived of food. it wasnt for me and many others like me.

[Leed]

Bless your heart -- keeping food from children IS abuse, and I don't care WHERE you live. Starving a child is horrible. That isn't "punishment' for any sins committed -- it's out and out abuse, and I wish the abusers went to hell!

I'm so sorry you were the victim of this Sanada. I can see where the smell of food would trigger you, but I HOPE you eat well. I pray that doesn't keep you from eating a healthy meal.

God bless you dearheart, and take care of yourself. Hugs, Lee

[rosesarered]

I believe that is abuse. Keeping food from a child and then using it to make the
child do something to get the food is wrong and should not be tolerated regardless
of where the child is located in the world.

[BrokenNBeautiful]

sounds like abuse to me.

Or torture.

I can't believe adults do stuff like that to kids.

Billi

[Missing in Action]

This is definitely abuse, no matter where you live. Food is basic to survival, on a physical level as well as emotional. It's hard for me to imagine what goes on in people's head to make them so hard and cruel.

I hope someday you are able to enjoy a good meal without thinking of these horrid people.