[wisewoman]

My daughter came to us when she was 3.75 years old. She had been in 5 different foster homes and had been abused every which way and severely neglected. She was a stiff baby, unable to understand how to let us hold her or read to her. We in later years heard of Reactive Attachment Disorder. This young lady never felt like we loved her the same as the other children. She always hung back and was very quiet though as sweet as you can imagine.

A year ago it came to our attention that her boyfriend and his family were controlling and abusive. She was almost 18. We tried to cut contact, sent her to friends for two weeks, tried to explain the emotional abuse and control. She started sneaking out to see him. We are not prison guards and told her that if she wanted to go live with him she could. We worked with her therapist and tried so hard to communicate with her but she was already in their web.

Friday night after taking our soon to be 5 year old daughter to the beach for a picnic with grandparents and other daughter we got a call from my friend who my daughter approached from work.

My daughter told her that she was being held captive and that she was timed to and from work and that they took all of her money and they yelled at her. She wanted to speak with us but was afraid. I went to her work place yesterday and took her away. I took her home with me. She has been telling stories about every action being controlled, having no privacy, boyfriend being controlling in every aspect including "filling up" on sex before her period. She is learning disabled and has a lot of issues and the boyfriend and family constantly made fun of her. She couldn't even go to the toilet by herself. The family did not have nutricious food in the house or leave her any money to buy it.

They have 3 adopted special needs kids that they emotionally torture and physically abuse. The children are malnourished. The only food when they get it is junk. They have 5 dogs and the dogs go for days without food.

These people have told her that she was never to tell anyone outside of the home anything that happened within. Weapons everywhere. The family had to go everywhere together and the little ones would be left in the van for hours with my daughter the slave watching them.

They told her she was fat and stupid, the boyfriend accused her of sleeping with everyone. They tried to force her to quit school which she did not do! She just graduated. They allowed her no contact with us her any friends or other family. They lied to people who were trying to find her. They didn't let her go to her own graduation party. They gave her dollar store gifts for graduation.

She has been telling the story for a day and a half now. The freakin courts woudn't even do an emergency relief from abuse eventhough she has been hit by the brother and that she has been psychically tortured. This is a heck of a week for me as I had 2 visits to colleges with my youngest who is still undecided about sept!

The stories out of this girls mouth are amazing. They are the stuff movie makers write deliverance from. I am taking her to court in the a.m. for a relief from abuse and a court order to have deputies help her retrieve her belongings. It turns out in speaking with her that they stole her computer and told her we never sent it. They took many other things from her and said the animals had peed on them.

The father actually yells at the children for looking at books and tells them that is for school and as far as he is concerned school is a waste.

They are on the fire department and rescue and are well known in their small town. They are supposed to be so great.

My daughter was telling the stories all weekend and I told her to try to write some things down for the affidavit. I went in to check on her and she was sobbing. The feelings came. I had asked children's services to check on the kids a year ago and the family hid everything. I am reluctant to make a report because it could be seen as retalliation so I want it in the affidavit so family court has to order children's services to investigate.

My daughter is lying on the cot next to my bed with my spouse as I type because I asked him to comfort her while I got rid of the tooth brush in my mouth and he fell asleep holding her. she is so sad and so grieving the loss of friends and family and a year of her life where all she could do was survive. He threatened to kill her and himself, as did the father. I may have evil feelings but I wish they would both off themselves! I know it's not a kind thing to say but all of the twisted family should go away and can these poor children already abused, neglected, takien from one family and given to these monsters actually have a chance at life?

She would not, could not have left if I didn't put her in my car and go speak with authorities. At least one deputy told her in plain english to forget that she is losing her car because she allowed them to title and register it in her name, forget the things in the house, to get out with her life and let the court worry about the personal belongings.

She snuggled with my teddy bear that the 5 year old has been using and cried about her stuffies that are left in that house. I told her there is lots more love and stuffies where those came from. My baby hugged on her like there was no tomorrow when I brought her home. She told her so honestly that she had worried and cried and suffered.

I spoke with the brainwashed daughter about attachment disorder and explained what had happened to her and have just kept telling her it is not her fault.

My feelings are so all over the map!!!!! My baby is home, she is safe, we can protect her. Our family is intact. She is so relieved. I look at her and I see a child who I can love openly who can no longer push me away. I see a child who I am the mother of and I can nurture her.

She got out!!!!!!!!!!! It took her asking my friend to speak with me but she got out!!!!! I am so happy about that. and I am trying to tell her she was a victim and is no longer, she is in charge and we will give her the freedom /graduation party she deserves.

I am proud of her. I took her from work and told them she would be back. I couldn't get a protection order so I took her. I had told the owner of the store where she works what was up beforehand. She called him today and asked for her paid week and a raise and explained that she would be back full time now and that when she couldn't come in it was because she was captive. He understood. I have known this man many years and I am his best customer I think. Anyway my daughter is a good worker and he is lucky to have her.

She wants to get back into special olympics and she wants to see her friends she has not been allowed to see in so very long.

So I am happy and I am so very sad and I wish that all girls, women, could have the support they needed to walk away and look toward choices and friends and family and having a life.

She is asleep now with hubby on this little cot for the 5 year old. It is too cute.

I plead with all of you in abusive relationships to get the heck out before it escalates and while you still have a chance to have a life.

Mods, please don't move this, I really think it needs to be here as a general message containing numerous issues. Thanks.

[hillbunnyb]

wisewoman, OMG. sometimes it's hard to believe what's going on in the world behind closed doors. I am soooo glad you got her out alive. I hope the creeps can be prosecuted. geezeus.

[Sabrina]

How terribly traumatizing for your daughter. You are such a special and strong woman and you deserve everything good, kind and gentle to help you help her.

Please take care of yourself throughout all of this.

[bebop]

wise I am so happy you got her back!! I know how this has affected you and your family for such a long time! I hope these people don't know where she will be working!! Good luck hon!

[Maven]

I'm glad you got her back, too, and I hope things get better and better. But there's something I have to ask: Please call the SPCA or the Humane Society in that area to help those dogs. They have no one to speak for them, and animal abuse is no more acceptable than human abuse.

[gardenergirl]

Oh my gosh. I don't even know what to say. I'm so sorry about this. And it's obvious to me you love her very very much. That's the best and brightest gift a child could ever have.

Take care,

gg

[desirae]

That's is so horrible, I'm so sorry to hear that has happened. She's so lucky to have you, more then she will ever know. I hope all goes well for her and that she will not return to this enviroment.

[wisewoman]

If it's okay I want to address this to everyone. Thank you for your warm affection and kind words. Maven, I am trying really hard to figure out how to deal with the child and animal abuse there. The state is sorely lacking. I have been away after the temp restraining order yesterday to be with other daughter same age for a college orientation. Abused daughter has stuck to my spouse like glue and she is not allowed to be alone right now at all. She is so traumatized.

This is a happy time in my life. Please don't get me wrong on this. I have three daughters now. I have no complaints. It's just that the whole court thing and trying to care for such an abused love one has taken it's toll. I am tired and have a bronchial/asthma type cold.

At the orientation yesterday it rained buckets all day. It is a large campus and eventhough I had on a rain coat I was drenched to the skin when I got to the dorm last night and realized I didn't have any linens. I was too pooped to care and slept on a fuzzy blanket.

Today is sunny and was much better. So, that daughter is scheduled to go off in August.

Thursday is court for the year long restraining order. I am sure it will be horribly exhausting. I am also concerned re: safety so I may be calling State Police or Sherriff to walk us in and out.

I am also apologizing in advance that I am too pooped to give a lot of support right now.

Thanks everyone. I love ya all.

[Sabrina]

I remain in awe of you!

You are very special!

I wish you strength and love.

[Maven]

I wish you and your family the best in dealing with this.

[bebop]

wishing you the best wise!! you hang in there hon!

[wisewoman]

Thanks again Maven and bebop. Geez I am a tired girl!!!!! We will get through tomorrow and it will be getting goood from there. Take care.

[wisewoman]

Hi again, I am really not meaning to be unsupportive of everyone here, I am ill, just came from Doc's and feel like poo but it's not pneumonia yet and I have a good regimine for asthma control. I am afraid of the court hearing tomorrow and the law-enforcement folks are finding it difficult to guarantee an escort for us in case they have an emergency. These people are sociopaths and it is scarey. The odd part is that as a consumer or whatever no one is taking me serious. If I were calling in my professional capacity they would be all over it. It is too weird. I am calling both child protective and animal abuse today again. I have devoted my day to bed. I feel uncomfortable as my abused daughter has driven herself to work but she has a cell phone and was going to get pepper spray and a whistle and I told her I didn't give a rat's behind what her boss said, she was to park right next to the back door where the spot light is and to have someone watch her get in, lock up and get started. I felt too ill to drive her, in fact had her drive me to doc as I am dizzy. Doc thinks I may indeed be having an allergic reaction to the pool chemicals where i have been swimming a lot.

Thanks everyone for your ongoing support and please know though I really can't respond to folks right now that my heart is with each and every one of you. Your support means the world to me.