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It's time to shut down. I just showed my husband my two recent threads in an attempt to get him to understand where I'm at and how awful this week has been for me. Know what he said?
'Are you sure something really happened? ' Doubt all over his voice ![]() I need to shut this all away and forget it.
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No, you certainly do not need to shut this all away or forget it. You feel what you feel and your husband is not you & it sounds like he doesn't understand.
![]() You are completely entitled to talk about any feelings and concerns that you have. Even if you have erroneously decided that you have green scales and a pink tail, if it is BOTHERING YOU, it is 100% your right to discuss it in therapy and with your spouse. Note: I'm not saying that you're making it up. I don't think that you are. But even if you WERE making it up just for fun, this would still be an issue that you need help addressing. My T recently asked me what I thought I'd gain by "making this up". I can't answer that. The best I've got is that it gives me an excuse for being so weird. But my "weirdness" all points to the same thing -- CSA. |
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Nelliecat, I have to tell you when I read what your husband said, my response was absolute rage and to actually say out loud, "Jesus Christ what an asshole!" I think I dislike your husband worse than mine right now, and that's saying something.
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He just wishes that it didn't happen. People would rather believe that such terrible things don't happen. I think that this is why people do this possibly. Please don't give up.
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I think Sannah may bring up a good point. You, as his wife, are the last person on this earth he'd ever want to have suffer through this. It might be his unwillingness to want to accept it more than doubt.
I would say, however, that pbutton is absolutely, 110% correct. Ultimately, your husband, whatever his intentions may be, has no right to imply doubt. And if it helps to talk about it or seek therapy, by all means, no matter what is said, do it. The last thing you need to do is try to shove this under the rug...that never works, and harms instead of helps. ![]() Please know you're in my prayers, and I hope things work out. Hugs, Harley
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