[Girl-Interrupted]

Is it my fault ???...my brother hurt me and i was so scared to tell someone about what was going on and then it started to get worse to the point were he raped me it started off with him touching me in the private parts of my body and then it lead to him raping me ....i feel like it is my fault because i didnt tell anyone...maybe if i told someone he wouldnt have be able to rape me .....x

[Harley47]

Bless you...no, no it is not your fault. Please don't think that it is. Your brother is TOTALLY at fault here...not you. Not one bit. Not an inkling of a bit.

Given your brother's behavior, it is normal to be afraid...I don't think you can be blamed for being afraid. It is NOT your fault...you did nothing wrong.

Have you told anyone yet? He needs to be AWAY from you...in a position where he can't hurt you.

Please, do not blame yourself...you could not have known it would get to this point. I would encourage you to tell someone now, as you deserve what justice you can get, but please do not blame yourself. You didn't do anything wrong.

If I may do anything for you, I would hope you wouldn't hesitate for a moment to PM me. I'm always here to talk.

My best, and know I am praying for you.

Hugs,
Harley

[Girl-Interrupted]

Thanks harly no i havent told anyone x

[Sannah]

Do you think that you can tell anyone? When did he rape you?

[mtd]

You are very brave, though you may not feel it right now. I applaud your courage in sharing what you have here. It's hard to face the abuse and very hard to admit to the undeserved self-blame that so many of us feel.

I agree with Harley, it was not your fault. You were only a child. You were silenced by your fear and your pain. A child can't control that.

I have walked in your shoes. I blamed myself for years and years for the abuse I suffered as a child. I didn't deserve to do that to myself. The fault is with the abuser, not the survivor. You did nothing wrong. You were just vulnerable, as any child is. Someone abused their power to take advantage of that and they hurt you. That was very, very wrong, but certainly not your fault.

Take good care of you. You deserve to heal.

Peace,

mtd

[Girl-Interrupted]

thanks for the reply that means so so much thanks x

[yellowted]

many children who have been through similar question whether they were to blame for what happened, that is natural behaviour, what is totally unnatural and illegal is what your brother did to you, you are in no way at all responsible for what he did.
mine did the same to me and yes i questionned whether it was my fault, blamed myself for years (it went on for years parallel to similar and emotional abuse from step father), but as i matured in adulthood i realised it was not to do with anything i had done or said, it was 100% their wanting to be pleasured, it could have been anyone, but i was there so they used me. the sad part is it is they who lost out in the long run because it made me so much more determined to achieve enough to look after myself so i would never have to rely on them in adulthood, and i did, i moved away and became the first person in my whole family line to ever own and run my own buisness, one they never got any rewards from. ok i hit rock bottom a few years ago but had the courage and determination not to go back there for support.
they do not know anything about my life now, they think i am still running my buisness, little do they know i am so disabled i can't even sit up without support! but the determination and courage are still shining through in me

[GirlOfManyFaces]

Listen, I understand exactly how you are feeling. You are not alone. It really isn't your fault. You may read this and think, "whatever it's still my fault" but it isn't. I was raped my a person I loved. And I still feel at fault. But if you blame yourself you are letting them take advantage of you even more. If you blame yourself you will become weaker and weaker and your brother will "come to the rescue" and the bad stuff with start over...

I know it's scary to tell someone. But it is for your own good. Write down what you want to say on a piece of paper, and slip it under your parents bedroom door. So you don't have to face them, but you still get heard.

Please don't give up. Be strong. Stand up for yourself.

I'm here if you want to talk. message me <3 hugs