[shortandcute]

I was made fun of a lot by my siblings. They would purposely provoke me and pick on me a lot, knowing that it would upset me, and then make fun of me when I got mad. When I was dating my first husband, my sister and brother in law were my legal guardians, and my BIL would make fun of me and humiliate me in front of him. Even at other times, making fun of the way I ate, etc. My sister would talk to me in baby talk around him. They both were constantly trying to embarrass me in front of people. And when and if I stood up for myself, they would either make fun of me or be extremely angry--calling me "defensive" and rebellious, etc. That's just the tip of the iceberg--there was a lot more than that my whole life.

I feel that was one way I was abused.

[Mara Mountain]

Everytime I see them. They do not see me as an adult yet and I am constantly criticized for my choices and treated like a child. My advice if you want to stay healthy and postive about yourself, keep the contact minimal. It's family but you have to look out for yourself first.

[Silent_Tears_17]

My family was/is. There latest was about me being a murderer because my hamster died. But they make fun of my weight, my diet, and even my grades. (And with grades I am 17 and a sophmore in college). Ive been punished for doing too much work... literally my Mother said "Yes, you are being punished for doing to much work because..."
My Mother often tells me she is "dissapointed in me" and "has raised me better" and that I could control myself, I just dont choose to and that I beat up on her.
One day I had friends over and I thanked my Mom a bunch and then at dinner she compained about how I hadn't helped all date and gave letter grades to me and my siblings on how each much we had helped. She have an A, 2 Bs, a C and then she gave me a D. It made me so sad.
Here are some of the things my Mother has said:
"You're my indetured servant today"
"That music is easy. I could have James (7 yrs old) play it for you."
"We hold all the power. I could pull you out of school tomorrow and make you sit here at home and I can cover that with the state."
"You have it better than 90% of the work. And if you want to leave, there's the door, dont let it hit you on the *** on the way out."
"the family got hit with all the S--- from you"
"stop being a B--ch

One New Years eve she said, "You will be quiet and at least pretend like you're having fun. This means a lot to your father and you're not going to ruin it.... although you already did a good job of that."

Another time she said about me, "She's gonna be the one forty years from now saying 'I was abused and they never have me anything because thats how she remembers things. She's gonna be like they were so mean to me and they picked on me...'"

My Dad once said, "I will crucify everyone if there's a problem"

And this was kind of how Ive spent the last few years. There are a million quotes like this but now my siblings start too. My Mother always wants to know if I have to make a crisis out of everything. And she makes me want to curl up in a ball and die. I completely understand and I sympathise

[chelenw]

I was constantly humiliated by my father when I was a child. I can remember as far back as when I was 5 or 6 him laughing at me if I fell or did something else that he deemed funny. I was also humiliated by the lady who would take care of me when I was a toddler. Yes, I can remember that far back. She kept a group of us kids and in the afternoon she would put us outside and lock the screen door so that we could not get in. When I would tell her that I had to come in and use the bathroom she would refuse to let me in and in the end I would go in my pants and then all the other kids would laugh and make fun of me. That happened on more then one occasion. It has made me fill worthless all my life.

[Leed]

Sounds familiar -- my oldest sister was my tormenter. She's 7 years older than me, and many times was left in care of us when my parents went out.

She used to beat me up -- she never touched the other 2, but just me. For some reason she thought it was funny to beat me up and torment me, emotionally & mentally. She'd embarrass me any time she got the chance.

She'd do all kinds of evil things, and then tell my folks that *I* did them and they believed HER -- and of course I'd get punished because she was older and they believed HER. They never listened to a thing I said. This went on until she left home at 19 -- and i was 12. isn't it funny that none of those things never happened again and they couldn't see the forest thru the trees???

She came home for my mom's funeral -- my sister was 59yrs old. She started tormenting me ALL OVER again, right in front of my daughter. Wouldn't you have thought she would have grown up?

[Silent_Tears_17]

Originally Posted by chelenw

I was constantly humiliated by my father when I was a child. I can remember as far back as when I was 5 or 6 him laughing at me if I fell or did something else that he deemed funny. I was also humiliated by the lady who would take care of me when I was a toddler. Yes, I can remember that far back. She kept a group of us kids and in the afternoon she would put us outside and lock the screen door so that we could not get in. When I would tell her that I had to come in and use the bathroom she would refuse to let me in and in the end I would go in my pants and then all the other kids would laugh and make fun of me. That happened on more then one occasion. It has made me fill worthless all my life.

I am so, so sorry for your pain. I send lots of hugs.

[tinyrabbit]

My therapist told me laughter can be a form of violence.