Finally shared with my kids...

Good Morning....

Just wanted to share a little with everyone as to how my weekend went...... I finally opened up and shared with my two sons (ages 21 & 16) - as to why I do not like to watch R-Rated shows with rape / sexual content / nudity in it and why I have such a heated passion of HATE for porn.

.... I finally said IT - I was sexually abused / raped as a child, and that with my past I will never be comfortable around such mean & evil ways in movies or in men.
... I feel FREE!!!


LoVe,
Rhapsody - ((( hugs )))

Wow Rhapsody.

That is truly amazing.

What a brave and courageous thing to do.

This will give them a clearer perspective about the strength and determination of your survival.

Thank YOU - Petunia

I think I had just finally decided that it was time - for how can I truly try to raise my young boys to be good moral males if they do not understand where I was totally coming from.... they already knew that I did not like certain things about sexual contents in movies and that I fought like crazy to keep porn from their eyes & mind, but they never knew the full reason to the WHY -
I think the events of this weekend will open up many doors to our future together.... as adults and as male & female with in relationships - may our bond grow stronger with my sharing.

.... and may my boys always cont' to learn to RESPECT women and to see them as a PERSON and not just a mere sexy package from the outside, but rather a precious GIFT they will share their sexuality with as inner LoVe grows.


LoVe,
Rhapsody -

I am interested in knowing how they took it. I have thought about telling my 16 year old son too but I worry about how he wil react... we are very close...

I think you did a brave thing and you sound like an amazing woman and mother... and no doubt your sons are a testimony to that.

just wanted to give you my support Rhapsody!!!!

I'm also curios to know what their reaction was...
I'm so glad you are finally able to get it all out, it was very brave of you!

Well, what can I say..... there was no real big reaction from them, they did like many males do when they have information to absorb.... and that was to think about it for a moment (you could see it in their eyes) and then they back away from me and the subject - as to maul it over.
I will bring the subject back up with them when I feel the time is right.... and I will keep you informed of their reaction(s) as the puzzle to their mom's past is finished.

BTW - my youngest son did say "Oh I See" - then we just moved on with the day at hand.... I did not mind this reaction, for I have learned that males tend to need time to think things through before they can or are ready to discuss the matter - I will give them the space they need.


LoVe,
Rhapsody - ((( hugs )))

(((((((((( Rhapsody ))))))))))

you are really starting to spread your wings to fly!

(((((((((((((Rhapsody))))))))))))))

How great for you and your sons! I remember when my mom told me about her childhood abuse. I was 31 and still didn't know what to say at the time. It did make so many things fall into place.



Elizabeth

excellent

HHMmm. Just the response I would expect from my son too... thanks for sharing!

How brave of you!! Congratulations! I hope that I can take myself to that point someday.

Rhapsody,
It's very kind of you to step outside yourself and understand them and their reaction in your time of vulnerablity. It shows a maturity my mother never showed with me.
((((((Rhapsody))))))

Thank YOU Jax...... I am still learning with each and every passing day I am blessed to be a part of.

(((( hugs )))) for YOU.......



LoVe,
Rhapsody -

Rhapsody, well done on this remarkable and courageous achievement. Well done too, on your wonderful attitude towards your sons.

I know i'm late to this thread but wanted to say WOW what a brave lady. My t always pushed me to tell my family so that i'd have more understanding, but that they would as well.

I couldn't do it. i didn't want them feeling responsible for me in any way. now that they're older, i've told them a bit more and it makes so much sense to them, but they don't act like they want to hear more. i asked if they would've wanted to know "back then". they did tell me that some explantion would've been good, but not detail. I guess i should've compromised some with t.

i'm so glad for you. it seems as though they responded just as you needed.

kd

Thanks Kimmy...... if there are but only three people that I want to know me from the inside out (and beyond) - it would be MY three MEN, my husband and my two sons.... for to know someone is to accept them as they fully are and to understand their reasoning's - both the good and the bad.


LoVe,
Rhapsody - ((( hugs )))

rhapsody wow. your strength is incredible. that must have taken such inner power. just had to say something about how cool it is you did that. your sons are blessed to have you.

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rhapsody wow. your strength is incredible. that must have taken such inner power. just had to say something about how cool it is you did that. your sons are blessed to have you.

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Thanks Biiv..... my oldest will turn 22 this December, so it did take some time to open up and to share.... but I felt they should know and that maybe through me sharing with them they might understand me and females a little more by letting them into our mental and emotional world of wounds, created from sexual abuse of another.

LoVe,
Rhapsody - ((( hugs )))