[friendshipbear45]

I believe I am suffering from someone kind of attachment disorder. when it comes to having attachments with men I am afraid to death to even date. I was abused emotionally by my father physically abused by a guy at my job. I am afaraid to get close to my stepfather and any guys for a long time talking is ok but relationship and getting close to guys is to scary for me.

[gayleggg]

With your history, I'm not surprised you can't trust enough to get close to someone. Have you had counseling for these abuse issues? If not, I think I would start with counseling. It really helps us get past, past hurts. I was raped when I was 17, it took counseling before I stopped hating men.

[blueredgrey]

Sorry for all you've gone through.

I agree with gayleggg. A sick mind cannot cure a sick mind. Even doctors cannot treat themselves and go to other doctors for treatment - we are mortal humans.

Pls find a therapist who can work with you and you are comfortable working with. It sometimes takes a few tries to find the right one. Look for therapists who have some experience in treating abuse victims.

It takes time, patience and a lot of work....but trust me, you'd get there!!

Good luck!

[Teddy:)]

Originally Posted by gayleggg

With your history, I'm not surprised you can't trust enough to get close to someone. Have you had counseling for these abuse issues? If not, I think I would start with counseling. It really helps us get past, past hurts. I was raped when I was 17, it took counseling before I stopped hating men.

If you dont mind me asking, What things did you do to get over hating men? I have the same issue, every men in my life that I looked up too did things that they shouldn't of done and now because of it I freak out around men and don't let them close because I believe they all have an interior motive.

My biggest fear though is that to get over my fear, I will have to face it, which will involve being around men. I just can't see how doing that would make me feel less scared.