[A18793715]

I have no one else to talk to this about because I never admit it to anyone except my doctor. There was an article on fb posted by a friend about a shirt that was sold saying that "It's not rape. It's a snuggle with a struggle." and I instantly bust into tears and now I'm super upset over it because in the comments, they were laughing. So I asked how that could even be remotely funny and my friend replied that she didn't want to explain dark humor to me. So I told her I knew what dark humor was and gave an example of dark humor vs rape jokes and she told me she was gang raped and found it funny, so she posted it. But it's such a horrible trigger for other people. Like me. Now all I can do is sit here and cry. Every day, I tell myself that I can'tt possibly take a tiny bit more and every day, something else adds onto that pile.

[A18793715]

Someone else just commented..

"I have seen more concern over the text on a damn t shirt than I have about REAL problems in this world. It is a T SHIRT! Put on your adult undies and shut the hell up."

So I ttold them it's a trigger for rape victims and they replied..

"And you know what! I am a tight-*** and it made me chuckle!"

What the F is wrong with people?!

[SkyWhite]

Not matter what those a--holes think, you are definitely right. That was an appalling post and ignorant to say the least. I was raped twice and I see nothing funny at all about this T-shirt. It's disgusting and, yes, triggering. And do you know what I'd say to that last comment? The text on that T-shirt IS one of the problems in this world!

I don't like Facebook for this very reason. Any A-hole can post anything and there's is no accountability. I don't know what age group you're in but I suspect the ignorance can be attributed to immaturity. Unfortunately, the world is full of people like this at any age and they do seem to like upsetting people on Facebook. Maybe you can block a few people or just get new friends.

[Lady Lindsey]

Is it possible you can just block the posts from your friend, or better yet just block her? I know that doesn't solve the problem, but is she really a friend, if she responded that way and laughed at you with others, when you reached out to her, to let her know how upsetting it was? I think you were very brave to do that and that shirt was completely inappropriate. did you report the picture to FB as offensive?

[VMblue]

Jokes like that really upset me too. And having it on a shirt is not just a trigger, it sends out the message that it is ok. And it is not.
I hope you can see that all the negative comments are wrong and that you are completely in the right.

[H3rmit]

There comes a state of being wehre it's possible to laugh even at terrible things that have happened. Look at the film "Life is beautiful" (which I hated, actually). I certainly have laughed at dark things in my life at times, and I guess your friend was there with respect to her rape experience. However, throwing it around on social media is insensitive, stupid/ignorant. Some things are meant to be shared in private, or at least a more appropriate context.

[Snips2314]

Yes, I agree with you. It was wrong. H3rmit was right, sometimes you get to a point where you can laugh or make light of the terrible things in your past, but that doesn't mean that others are at the same point in their lives. They should not have posted that publicly.
VMblue makes a very good point as well. It does send out the message that it IS ok. It is NOT ok...It is not something to be made light of.

I'm so sorry that someone close to you hurt you that way. Even though they didn't know, they should have respected you when you stood up about the post. ((hugs)) The others who posted are right, maybe you should block at least her post from now on...if she does have that kind of humor, or is to the point where she can laugh about it, you don't want to be triggered by another post like that, if she makes another one.