[SQLVR]

I know I kind of already posted about this, but do any of you completely avoid relationships all together? I mostly mean romantic/intimate relationships. I'm 26 and it's been 7 years since I have been in a romantic relationship and, not counting abuse, I am still a virgin. Part of me really wants to love someone and be loved back, but I know I'm not able to handle the emotional or physical intimacy that comes with relationships. I don't want to spend the rest of my life alone., but i honestly don't see it getting better anytime soon and I often just want to give up altogether

[kaliope]

I have been alone for over 10 years, and haven't had sex for well over 15. my marriage and long term relationship after that were both controlling, mentally and emotionally abusive. I was isolated, not allowed friends, told what to do and when to do it. I lived in constant fear. it took a lot of courage to leave. I have always feared that I would attract the same type of man so I have just decided that I would stay away from men. I am perfectly content alone. it just doesn't seem worth it to me to give up my freedom cause I have never got any benefits out of a relationship. I think about it every now and then but then I think how much I enjoy watching what I want to watch on tv, only worrying about making dinner for myself when I want and what I want, going to bed any time I want to and moving around as much as I want, going out whenever I want without permission or feeling guilty about it, only cleaning up after myself. why would I want to give all this up? it just isn't worth it for the drama of a relationship.........

I avoid any intimacy & have done all my life. I don't even like anyone, including close friends to touch or hug me.I prefer life on my own although I would like to have a relationship. I have been in many short term relationships & sex has always been an issue to me. I tend to drink, & dissociate to enable me to 'cope'. I have only been in therapy a year, but so wish I had done it 20 years ago. I have only just disclosed to my therapist about my CSA & my t is the only person I have ever told. It has got harder for me as the years pass. I feel like a freak. I hope you can find someone to support you with this issue as my feeling is that unless we get that help, it will stay with us forever. Take care. XXX

[Tangerine87]

Originally Posted by SQLVR

I know I kind of already posted about this, but do any of you completely avoid relationships all together? I mostly mean romantic/intimate relationships. I'm 26 and it's been 7 years since I have been in a romantic relationship and, not counting abuse, I am still a virgin. Part of me really wants to love someone and be loved back, but I know I'm not able to handle the emotional or physical intimacy that comes with relationships. I don't want to spend the rest of my life alone., but i honestly don't see it getting better anytime soon and I often just want to give up altogether

I do, but I really don't know why.