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<font color="red"> My life is messed up now, more than ever!
I feel abused and very ashamed - covered with guilt! ![]() |
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I am sorry.........so sorry...........
soft gentle hugs for you, if thats ok!
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I am so sorry this has happend to you. Take good care of you.
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(((((((((Rose)))))))
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No shame! But I hope you are not with this T anymore and that you can get help from a trustworthy T for this issue.
Tranquility
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Much love and appreciation to you all (mybestkids2, TryingToCope, esthersvirtue, tranquility), for your kindness of heart and non judgmental attitude!
huggs* SSR |
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SSR, I've had those feelings of shame and guilt. I've gone from complete despair, to fear, to rage, to missing him, to confused, to feeling guilt and shame, back to despair, it's an endless cycle. But, in regard to the guilt I will tell you what my therapist told me, "There is nothing that you could have said, or anything that you could have done, that would make what he did justifiable. My therapist told it wouldn't have mattered if I had walked in there completely naked, it still wouldn't be okay for him to do what he did to me. An ethical therapist would not do it. I'm so sorry you are hurting. That kind of pain is hard to describe. I know it all too well.
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Please, if you aren't in therapy, find another therapist and work through this. Please don't feel ashamed, as the T took advantage of you, regardless of what your thoughts were at the time. There is a good reason why this is considered unethical for Ts to behave this way.
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Dear Claire B and Sky,
Will try and get some help - if I can stir up the courage! Clare, that's everything I feel, it fluctuates all the time - when will this end?????????????????????????????? SSR |
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SSR, I just read your post. I am so sorry you are going through all this. It must be very confusing. Like the others, I hope you can find a trustworthy T who can help you through all this. I am sending positive thoughts your way.
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You don't have to fly straight... ![]() ...just keep it between the lines!
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</font><blockquote><div id="quote"><font class="small">Quote:</font>
Clare, that's everything I feel, it fluctuates all the time - when will this end?????????????????????????????? SSR </div></font></blockquote><font class="post"> I don't know when it will end. It still hasn't ended for me, and it's been a really long time since it happened. But, I will tell you that with time and a good therapist who understands this type of abuse it is easier for me to cope with the pain. I don't feel the deep despair that I used to, nor do I miss him anymore. But, I'm kind of stuck with the bitterness and rage, and basically I just hate his guts. I want to be at the place where he is just an insignificant part of my past, and I'm not there yet. Hopefully, with more time I will be. |
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((((SSR))))
Sending gentle hugs and thoughts to you. I am sorry this happened to you. Know you are not alone and that I care. purplesecrets |
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SSR, I just wanted you to know I'm thinking of you. You're not alone.
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Dear Depressme, Clare B and Purple Secrets,
Thanks for your encouragement! Actually thinking about braving it one more time - Therapy that is! How do I know who to go to - psychologist/psychiatrist etc.... Hope my pain and misery will subside, my life return to some normalcy! kindness, SSR |
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