[dogzrule]

I don't really know the exact way to describe exactly what happened the other evening, so I will try to explain it as best I can. I went out to dinner with my boyfriend the other night, and when we arrived at the restaurant and got out of his car, I knew throughout my entire being and in my soul that I was going to see my ex boyfriend (from an abusive relationship). It was the same feeling I got when he was stalking me before I got the restraining order against him, I would have the feeling and then see him within the next half hour.

I wish I could say that I stood my ground, enjoyed my dinner, and looked like I was having a great time with my new boyfriend. Instead, I saw him and just hope he didn't see me. He didn't at least when he came in the door when I saw him. I kept my hand near my face to block it, scarfed down half my dinner, got the rest to go, and we left as soon as we could after. I'm clinging to the hope that he still thinks I live in another town, which I did for a while but have since moved back (reference previous post: http://forums.psychcentral.com/sleep...aid-sleep.html).

Has anyone experienced any feeling like this before, specifically as some sort of warning sign? Honestly, since the abusive relationship and depression/anxiety/constant fear I've had since, I have been pretty apathetic about any sort of religion or spiritual beings to help humanity. I suppose one could attribute it to some sort of warning from God...or something similar? I just wanted to know if anyone else had any similar experiences, if they have recurred, and what it was like.

[Karmakat32]

Hi dogzrule,
I'm sorry you had to endure seeing him again; I know how terrifying and stressful that can be. But kudos to you for handling the situation the way that you did. I'm sure it wasn't easy.

I've had that same feeling many times before that I was going to see one of my abusers somewhere, especially I was traveling in a triggering area of town. Most times I think it was just my anxiety and fear causing the bad feeling, but I did have one incident where I had that feeling and then I did see my abuser. I had just gotten home and was parking my car in the driveway when I started feeling really strange and terrified I was going to see him.... and then sure enough he was driving up my road and actually stopped at the end of my driveway as I was getting out of my car. I almost froze but panic took over and I hurried into my house and locked the door. Luckily he drove away. That's the only time I actually saw an abuser after having the feeling I would. I still get on hyper alert though everytime I get a feeling like that. I think our intuition is pretty smart when we decide to listen to it, so I always try to pay attention whenever I get one of those sickening scary feelings.

[kaliope]

well, i could give you a way out there explanation for it if you believe in energy and how it works, like people having auras and stuff. our bodies run on energy and that is what creates our aura. i was very much into this stuff in the past but not anymore. but it would explain why you feel him. it is like when you know the phone is going to ring, you are feeling the energy of the person calling. so it is simply that you are acutely attuned to his energy so when it comes close to your energy field, you feel it and know he is near. so you can take this or leave it, but that is how i would explain it.

[dogzrule]

Originally Posted by kaliope

well, i could give you a way out there explanation for it if you believe in energy and how it works, like people having auras and stuff. our bodies run on energy and that is what creates our aura. i was very much into this stuff in the past but not anymore. but it would explain why you feel him. it is like when you know the phone is going to ring, you are feeling the energy of the person calling. so it is simply that you are acutely attuned to his energy so when it comes close to your energy field, you feel it and know he is near. so you can take this or leave it, but that is how i would explain it.

I definitely do think that is part of it, though I wouldn't say I've ever experienced it with anything else. Maybe it is just the universe's way of telling me some great danger is going to be a potential threat, I don't know.

I do sometimes get scared/have nightmares/have flashbacks/etc, but this feeling is totally different. I considered leaving as soon as I felt it but then thought I was just worried. Maybe next time I will so I can actually enjoy my evening.

[dogzrule]

Originally Posted by Karmakat32

Hi dogzrule,
I'm sorry you had to endure seeing him again; I know how terrifying and stressful that can be. But kudos to you for handling the situation the way that you did. I'm sure it wasn't easy.

I've had that same feeling many times before that I was going to see one of my abusers somewhere, especially I was traveling in a triggering area of town. Most times I think it was just my anxiety and fear causing the bad feeling, but I did have one incident where I had that feeling and then I did see my abuser. I had just gotten home and was parking my car in the driveway when I started feeling really strange and terrified I was going to see him.... and then sure enough he was driving up my road and actually stopped at the end of my driveway as I was getting out of my car. I almost froze but panic took over and I hurried into my house and locked the door. Luckily he drove away. That's the only time I actually saw an abuser after having the feeling I would. I still get on hyper alert though everytime I get a feeling like that. I think our intuition is pretty smart when we decide to listen to it, so I always try to pay attention whenever I get one of those sickening scary feelings.

It's really weird though - I somehow just knew he was going to be there. I do get the anxiety/fear going through certain parts of town, but somehow that was still different. I'm glad in the situation you described that he drove away and left you alone.

I agree about the intuition - maybe that and/or the universe looking out for us is the best way to describe it. It's a strange experience for me though, since I have never had this sense in any other situation. Maybe it's because it is the only situation where I've felt a very true and present threat to my life, I'm not sure.