[desperado]

I think I'm on the yellow brick road to forgiveness.........

*** just began the mini-labrinyth ***

One brick @ a time.

*** hugging Toto & Toto's pup ***

Des.

[Fuzzybear]

((((((((((((((((dessy))))))))))))))))))

so pleased for you

love-- --

[confused43]

how do you forgive? i hate my mom for what she let my stepfather and her friends do. i also hate her for what she did and didn't do. It is strange though because i go see her sometimes. its not ofthen and i didn't see her until my stepfather died.

[mtd]

Des,

I know that forgiveness is important for many survivors and I respect that. And I rejoice for those who find healing in forgiveness. And I really wish you well on your journey and hope that it brings you peace and healing.

For me, I've tried. I can't. Not now. I have heal without forgiving them. Those who raped me have never come to me for forgiveness. Truthfully, I hope they never do. If they do, I guess I'll have to confront forgiveness then. But they were really, really brutal and showed me no mercy. That's where I get stuck.

I admire your capacity to reach for forgiveness. Maybe one day I will be able too.

mtd

forgiveness is hard i cant do it but im so glad u can dessy

(((dessy)))

must feel good

[desperado]

thank you, Fuzzy

[desperado]

Thanks, Jin.............long road, though, eh.

I'm thinking of you too. I hope you had a gd (btr) w/e.

[desperado]

I'm not too sure about knowing exactly how to forgive, confused43............

I think it might "help" that it's a family member.

Dunno.

I am sorry for what your mom allowed your stepfather & her friends do to you. I know it hurts.

((((((((((confused43)))))))))))

Take care of yourself.

Des

[Hopefull]

I'm close to forgiving my parents too however, my parents only verbally abused me and did a some physical abuse. So I probably have it easier than those who have been sexually abused or serverely physically abused.

[bellaviolet]

congrats on that des.... i think thats a big step....

what i went through wasnt near as severe as what some here suffered..... and i'm sorry to everyone for what you went through.....but still i have only just started allowing myself to feel truly justifiably angry about what did happen so forgiveness is still around the bend for me..... but someday i hope....

[RACEKA]

Forgiveness hasn't come for me yet, but I know it will.

Forgiveness is for the survivor not the abuser, so you can go forward in peace. God forgives us so we may live in peace.

My mom is dead and I still hate her. I told her as a child I hated her & I still do.

This is the month for Mothers Day. I hated it then and I hate it now.

[Calm]

Forgiveness is something I have struggled with also. I have been able to find forgiveness for a few, and they are the ones who took ownership of what they did to me. I have been fortunate that I received that from them. A ***sincere*** apology from the abusers can go a long way in helping a person forgive. I'm still not able to forgive some others, and all I can do for now is let it go and turn it over to God. Didn't Jesus say when being crucified, "God forgive them, for they know not what they do" ? Well, if I'm never ever able to forgive the rest of them, then I leave it to God to step in.

[RACEKA]

Their judgement day will come.

[cajun]

Great News Desy!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[MissCharlotte]

I don't forgive. I don't want to forgive. Not now. I don't even hope to do so in the future.

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I'm with you "sister". I could have written exactly what you did.

desperado -- if that is where you need to be though, to move on, then that is wonderful. I wish much healing on that yellow brick road for you. Good luck and please let us know how things are going.

desperado--

mandy