[Moni13]

Hi everyone I don't consider thus sexual abuse if I consented. I actually initiated the act and became upset and agitated when he tried to fight until he did give in. He's 15years older than myself. My therapist said it was normal not to feel I was abused and see it as my fault. He said even to have enjoyed it was normal.

My therepist is missing my point I dont feel those things in a negative way. I wanted those things to happen I needed them to happen. The first time I saw this man I prayed these things would happen. I remember meeting him at 1 and we were inseparable. I remember literally kissing him and my auntie pulling me off of him laughing saying thats inappropriate.

After explaining this I feel we got no where he feels im still in denial. At this point im heated I explained I no the difference between being sexual abused and consenting. When I was 3yrs old my mom would take me to my babysitter. A older lady, her daughter and granddaughter. There were several others living in this 4bedroom apartment including a little boy close tobmy age. To make a long story short I was terrified of these ppl.

They would lock me and him up in the bathroom for hours. We would scream and cry we would be punished.

Possible trigger:

I remember having to do oral on the grandmother being forced and threatened that bad things would happen. They put cockroaches on us.

Till this day im terrified terrified of cockroaches. I consider this sexual abuse and its still really hard to talk about. Can anyone relate or give insight. Please.

(Sorry for any bad grammar or punctuation. I'm on my mobile phone my keys kinda stick)

[Moni13]

Please any advice would be so helpful.

[Raindropvampire]

I don't really have any advice but wanted you to know someone was listening. In a way I understand because I've had a T tell me that my first consensual sexual experience was abuse because of the age difference. The T couldn't understand that it was me taking control of my body for the first time and doing something I wanted instead of having it done to me. So I do understand what you are talking about.

[Grad0507]

Even though I was never sexually abused, my bf thinks maybe I was. I have been in large age gap relationships as an adult.

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[mimsies]

How old were you when you and he started having sexual contact?

[lostinsidemyself]

Originally Posted by mimsies

How old were you when you and he started having sexual contact?

I second this question.

Moni13:
There is something called statutory rape, where a child underage is having "consentual" sex with an adult because a child cannot consent!

In my State it is by 4 yrs difference. Therefore if a 17 yr old has sex with a 13 yr old, State law states that is statutory rape and is illegal by State Law. Every State in the US varies a bit and each country obviously varies but you must understand and come to terms with a child cannot consent, therefore if you were a minor and the man was 15 yrs older, this IS rape.

Now whether it affects you, I dont know. I think you would have a highet affect from the other info you posted BUT to state this isnt rape is incorrect if you were a minor.