Maybe it's all...

BS.

Maybe they were right and I just needed to toughen up. I was too sensitive and emotional. I should quit *****ing and just deal. Why am I so hung up on this crap? Why can't I just get over it?

Everyone else seems willing to let it go. The ones who did it deny that it was ever bad or even happened.

What's disciplin and what's abuse? Which is which? How the hell do you tell the difference?

Maybe I'm stupid and confused but there should be a line between the two (discipline and abuse). So, why did they seem to melt and bleed into one another?

I wish it were as easy as just being able to 'deal with it' I am unable to let it go!!! If discipline & abuse have merged into one, then they have both been abusive for you. All I can do is to just keep working on it. You are not stupid & yes, it is confusing. None of us asked to be abused, yet we are left with not knowing what is & isn't right in our mess!!

Intent. I think children sense if it is being done out of love verses the parent's own self interest or subconscious hangups. Whenever a parent disciplines a child in anger, they might be projecting their own issues on the child. When children are not loved unconditionally (I love you even though you aren't perfect), it makes them feel less worthy. When we are raised this way, we become more easily depressed than other people.....

I don't think it's you who is "stupid and confused"

The abusers were / are .. and that is giving them a kind interpretation of their abuse

It is not a negative to be 'sensitive'.Oh,I think you know the
difference between abuse and discipline. Discipline does not
hurt the soul,body,self-respect,or self-esteem. Have a look
on Facebook for 'Highly Sensitive People'.
Deepest Respect,
BLUEDOVE

(((so leigheas )) I can relate so much ,iask myself this to ,i am sorry i have no answer for us