Silent Treatment/being ignored

I'd always be talking and my abuser would ignore me or would vanish for days, weeks or a month or two and come back. I'd be crying, worrying sick over him and in the end I'd be blame for things that I did when all I did was stand up for myself. I've also notice how my mother ignores me and won't even hear a word I say.

Now I have this habit saying: Are you listening? Hello? Or walk away crying cause I'm being ignored and not being heard. It got to the point where I hated my voice and started calling myself stupid. Anytime I'm sad, I listen to Pink Floyd and can't seem to get these dark thoughts out of my head. Hello. Hello. Is anybody out there? The song speaks to me on a personal level.

I've been ignored most of my life by my mother and by my abuser and accepted it as normal. Often times I hardly speak because I honestly don't think people care enough to listen. This is what truly gets to me and I hope I can recover from it one day...

Often times people label me as crazy cause I suffer from PTSD and crying spells. My mother still continues to ignore me and I end up walking away from her. I can't stand to be near her. Simply tolerate her if I'm in her presence.

Being ignored makes me feel like the other person does not honor my presence. But, I think most people ignore because they are too caught up in their own life and concerns. And, in some cases, they don't want to deal with a situation and ignoring is a way to run from it. I understand how you are sensitive to it. I hope it gets better.

Being ignored is abuse.

Withholding any sort of response is manipulative and abusive. It is classic narcissistic behaviour and it is part of their campaign to control and destabilise. I'm married to one and have been subjected to this sort of manipulative sulking on and off for way too long.

Standing outside it and seeing it for what it is - a manipulative way to keep you feeling bad about yourself and thus in their power - is vital to breaking free and reclaiming yourself. Don't blame yourself, you are not stupid and you are worth listening too. Everyone has a story to tell, a unique human story. These two people in your life have major problems and if you can, just remind yourself of this. The problem is theirs. Best wishes to you.