how do you stop a loved one from seeing an old abusive partner?

Hi,

I have a friend who recently got out of an abusive relationship. I know she loves and cares for her partner; however, she has not yet let go of the communication. In fact, I recently found out that she had gone to see her ex a few days ago.

I've been told by several people about her partner and I'm worried. What can I do to help in this situation?

Thanks.

Not much you can do for another not ready to leave an abusive situation other than let them know of your concern and how much you care about them.

That's what I've been doing. I wish there was more I could do. I feel like it's the same as watching someone run a red light and not do anything about it other than scream "stop!"

You could maybe research places they could go, provide things for them to "do" to show them another way of being? "Habits" have to be replaced with better/different behaviors or they'll just come back. My favorite example is of a guy that wanted to stop biting his fingernails so placed nail files everywhere in his house where he sat and started the habit of filing/caring for his nails instead. At the end of the 21 days it takes to either make OR break a habit, he had a new habit regarding his nails. If you have other friends or groups you go to, etc. bring your friend along to meet new people or find a new place you both can explore together, etc. and she won't have to go back to what's familiar?

That's a great idea and something I'll suggest to mutual friends as well. Thanks for your help !