calm stage

Hello!
We have officially entered the calm (or dead) stage where Hubby and I just co-exist. We don't talk, we don't do much together, we just sort of live in the same hourse.
I have to say is the part of our relationship that I like the most. It is peaceful, but lonely. The loneliness I could take it better if I was truly on my own, you know, ratter than lonely with him sitting on the other couch.

Any way, it is peaceful now.

gab

and you know the battering cycle, stress, tension will build and finally htere will be a blow up. The calm is part of a well established cycle. At least there are calm periods for you.

Gloria,
I hope that you do not have to be around when the violent part of the cycle starts.
My thoughts are with you.

Jessica

<font color=blue> You are in this snowglobe. It is encovered in glass and secure. But one day someone comes and shakes the globe and the pieces go flying everywhere. Now they will eventually settle but they won't be the way they were before and they can never be that way again. </font color=blue>

Hi,
Have you thought about going to a marraige and family therapist to help improve your relationship? Do you have a desire for it to change or are you more wanting it to end. It just seems like your in limbo right now. I'll be praying for you and your family.

I went to therapy this morning, I've been going now for almost a month.
The T and I have a plan, I'm suppose to invite him to therapy, i'll do it during lunch so after the invitation he has to go back to work and "act normal". Besides, I'm having lunch with him at a public place where he'll have no choice but to behaive.
I'll be prepared at home when he makes it at the end of the day, just in case he "acts up" lo leave with the children. If he doesn't act up, we'll start therapy Friday, still with the goal of creating a healthy envornment for the children (but with personal plans of ending the marriage). We've been the therapy route before, we've done the marriage enrichment stuff, etc. This is just a plan to as peacefully as possible end the marriage.
Also, I'll be calling the program for victims of domestic violence at 3 PM, to start using their services, just in case.

gab

Gloria,
I am so glad that you found some domestic violence services in your area. I hope you find them beneficial.

Jessica

<font color=blue> You are in this snowglobe. It is encovered in glass and secure. But one day someone comes and shakes the globe and the pieces go flying everywhere. Now they will eventually settle but they won't be the way they were before and they can never be that way again. </font color=blue>