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Old Dec 31, 2018, 12:51 PM
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You make me sad. I wish you were so different, real parents.
And why my siblings don't suffer and are not so messed up as I am?
Because you prefered them and like them the most since the begining.
I don't have the tools to amuse you and say fun things as they do, you should like and accept me and care about me and my emotional well being dispite what I can give to you.
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Old Dec 31, 2018, 12:53 PM
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I am not the one who should go for you for help. You should be able to see I need help and love. Not to br ignored right in front of your eyes.
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Old Jan 03, 2019, 12:05 AM
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It's sad you have not learned anything about the cause and effect of your bad behavior after all this time. You just insist on continuing the saga. This may be the narcissism in you.
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Old Jan 03, 2019, 03:03 PM
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You make me sick. Look at yourself and YOUR sickness for once. Stop your sick sick games. Get a grip and stop harming good people

(Not about anyone on pc)

What do you want to say to your abuser?
I wish that I knew! It a question I ask a time time.
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Old Jan 03, 2019, 03:04 PM
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It's tough to come up with something, but I am going to go with:

I wish you had been sorry for what you did.
I wish I had said that to my abuser those in my family
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Old Jan 03, 2019, 03:04 PM
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I wish you'd realized how much your issues caused pain in your immediate family.
I wish I had said that to my abuser.
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Old Jan 03, 2019, 03:06 PM
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I don't really have anything to say so much as things I want to do. I'd like to cut off his hands. So he knows he can't put them just anywhere he wants. I think that says way more than I ever can with words.
That is so true!
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Old Jan 03, 2019, 03:07 PM
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I’ve never been one to mince words. I said what I wanted to say whether it be by letter or to their face, even said it with silence and simply moving on without words. It felt good to get it out and they had it comin’. Did they care? Did it get under their skin? Did it matter? Probably not. But it helped me heal. Unless they are dead, it’s never too late to give them a what for. Take it from the Americans, we’ve let the bar down as low as it goes!
That is great advice!
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Old Jan 03, 2019, 03:08 PM
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Sometime i get tired of apologizing to those my family hurt emotionally.
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Old Jan 03, 2019, 03:10 PM
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I could send some of them a letter I guess. But I don’t think they are worth my time..



Although if I do turn into a polar bear I will eat that therapist . I would probably have indigestion for months
Well you won't know until you try! What do you have to lose?
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Old Jan 03, 2019, 03:11 PM
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Fuzzy, you could write the letter and get your feelings out. But, honestly, I doubt they would understand. Have you read the book Toxic Parents? That might help.
That is great advice! I still take writing out your feeling will help you
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Old Jan 03, 2019, 03:16 PM
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"you hurt me terribly. i will try to forgive, even though ou don't deserve it"
I wish that I knew how to forgive
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Old Jan 03, 2019, 03:18 PM
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Possible trigger:

I wish that I had the courage to tell them that.
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Old Jan 03, 2019, 03:19 PM
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((Fuzzybear)) My hug buttons are not working but hugs to you Fuzzy & thanks for your post. Abusers: Stop hurting people.
I agree that you need a big hug!
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Old Jan 03, 2019, 03:22 PM
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I was three. How do you look at a baby and think that's ok to do? How? I want a reason an answer something to wrap my head around.
That a question I been asking for a long time that I wish I had am answer to.
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Old Jan 03, 2019, 03:23 PM
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Thanks SO very much for my lifetime of alcoholism! I hope u suffer daily like I do! I wish u nothing but pain & misery until u die.
I wish that I had the courage to tell all of my.abuser that!
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Old Jan 03, 2019, 03:25 PM
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Leave me alone! I can't take it anymore! Stop ganging up on me with your husband! Get some help!
I had this happen to me all the time from my family and their friends and my ex friends!
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Old Jan 03, 2019, 11:08 PM
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I could be a normal human being!
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What I like to tell my abuser is🤬🤬🤬🤬🤬. When I am with her, I am like😰😰😰
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Old Jan 04, 2019, 01:25 PM
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I wish that you would let !e talk to you the whole that you talk to me. The constant put down. The constant yelling at you
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Old Jan 04, 2019, 01:55 PM
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((Fuzzybear)) My hug buttons are not working but hugs to you Fuzzy & thanks for your post. Abusers: Stop hurting people.
I think we all need a hug
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Old Jan 04, 2019, 01:56 PM
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“Does being cruel give you an adrenaline rush?”

I actually have a lot to say to her, but I’ve learned that she thrives on having a fight, about anything, anytime, and in the end just devalues me, everything I say and everything I think. So I write it all down, and my replies, but I dont ever show it to her, and that works fine for me.
That is great advice!
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Old Jan 04, 2019, 01:59 PM
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Hope you're sitting in prison right now, for countless years to come. Enjoy!
That one is my favorite
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Old Jan 04, 2019, 02:02 PM
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why did you have kids if all you were planning to do was to abandon them and try your best to end their lives

you sick ****er. you don't deserve kids and you certainly don't deserve love
The question I ask my parents and my siblings I never got an answer from.
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Old Jan 09, 2019, 12:20 AM
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You think you're different than your father because you never hit us. But god, I used to wish that you would.
The last little bit of restraint between backing a child into a corner while screaming in their face in rage and actually hitting them doesn't make you a decent father.
Both of your children began self harming because of your abuse. Do you really think that makes you any better than a parent who does the beating themselves?
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