Sod off you piece of **** What do you want to say to your abuser

I hope you're living in utter squalor & filth. I hope your daily existence is pure Misery...

YOU DESTROYED MY LIFE!!!

Wow thats deep

You mean nothing to me,you are both obnoxious,selfish,violent abusers,you use money to get what you want and look good,you think giving me money whitewashes your reputation and buy you your innocence.I will never stop despising you,you have left me with a mountain of hurt that will always leave me with wounds and scars.I do not care one iota about either of you,you have each other now see how that works cos you are not beating me up and violating my integrity anymore.I do not care about either of you anymore,you are both evil demons.You abuse me,deny it,and turn around and play the victims yourself,I am repulsed by you,one of you even tried to kill me and still for the sake of the other I allowed you to reestablish communications,big mistake but at least God showed me how much you both hate me and hold me in contempt.I now see the depth of your malice towards me,I don't need you,I never needed you,even though you deliberately worked to make me dependent on you and lose my personal power and self identity,I could always make it without you,I know that now.You are both dead to me now.

Give me a reason to want to forgive you

I hate your slimy guts. U ate me alive & destroyed my entire wonderful future, I could have had. Suffer horribly every single day & I hope u struggle to breathe air. I also hope u are absolutely miserable and in serious pain, daily.
And that's Real....End of story

There are so many things I want to say to my abuser this website don't have enough room for all of it (not all of it's appropriate either).

One thing I would say is "I hate you, you cheated me out of a childhood and out of a relationship with my younger siblings. I didn't deserve any of the pain you've caused me. May you suffer in Hell for the rest of eternity."

I have one of my abusers that lives in my home. I guess I am a coward, bc he has been here for over 3 years, and I have never brought it up. I have never been one for confrotion, and avoid it at all costs. Baby steps so far.

Was it really worth the rest of your life in prison?
In all that time, you never once said I'm sorry to me for me. Just a generic I'm sorry at your sentencing...BS....
I waited years for a version of "I'm sorry"...instead you died in prison...

Time is wasted in hateful talk and such toward abusers. I did very thing, however to what avail?
Why waste your life hating someone or something you can't change cause it's in the past.

I laugh at the very thing you got locked up for...these days youd just be considered gay...
Gay is the normalization of abuse in my opinion....
I've dealt with issues 40 years now since sexual abuse first began....
Real issue these days no one still wants to hear about it besides some wanna be therapists who was not abused....How can therapist really help someone in area they haven't personally experienced?BS is 95% of the talk from them....most just want repetitive clients to keep practice going...no intrest in patients....just come back....
I've found 3 out of 17 in my 40+ years of dealing with abuse that seemed genuine in caring for person...
But ultimately I dare say most therapists dont care about you like they would if it more personal to them...ie...someone they love...

I want to say to my abusers I don't get it,I was a complete stranger ,I did nothing to you,yet you stuck your nose in my business to find out about me going out of your way to dig up the dirt then you used this is seriously damage my emotional and mental health.Why,was it a game? Did you get a sick sadistic pleasure out of it?You are all despicable,sick sadists,I hope karma gets you.

Ditto for me too. Add perverts to my abusers. They certainly enjoyed destroying me!!! Had nothing better to do with their empty lives.

My mother died about 5 years ago. She had a month or two left unbeknownst to me. One day I let it all hang out. Harangued her for about 40 minutes non-stop. Gave it to her, both barrels.


This was a woman who never did in all her life, ever mellow the hell out. She was ugly to the end.


Did me a lot of good to tell her off, and I recommend it, and I don't care how long they have left.

The only unfortunate thing about her dying is that she's not here so I can tell her off again. No way did I hardly scratch the surface.

Cara8tz and others: yes humans are nasty animals and don't need a reason.

I don't think gay is a normalization of abuse at all. Gay sex between two consensual adults is not abuse. Now if it with a child or something like rape, then yes it is abuse. Men still go to jail for raping children or other men.

Doesn't that make them psychopaths? It is not normal to enjoy abusing other people (physically or emotionally same thing to me).

Not normal at all.

why can't you just leave me alone

you've got your own life, you've gotten away with your harsh treatment (beyond me), just live your life and be happy

stop ****ing with people you clearly don't care about

God is on my side. You will wind up in the gutter again where you belong because you will waste your money on mischief and criminal activities. Mark my word. You will bring yourself down.

what goes around comes around.

don't be surprised if things turn sour for you in a few years from now

no one's ever squeaky clean, and that includes you

so be prepared

and when things do happen you can't handle, don't go begging me for support- because i'm not ****ing interested

Wanted to tell my mother how much I hate her and delight in her suffering from terminal lung cancer during her last year alive. During her last few days alive, I wanted to look her in the eyes and tell her I hope there is a real hell and she goes to it for ****ing up my life when she was powerless to stop me.


Unfortunately, I was too much of a coward. My step father at the time believed she was the physical manifestation of love even though she was a master manipulator that preyed on both his naivety and his good nature. I was afraid he wouldn't support me anymore if I told her what I think about her because at that time I couldn't hold down a job or take care of my basic needs and I wouldn't have been able to survive on my own.

So yeah, my hatred for my mother still burns brighter than a thousand stars.

I don't want to say anything to my abuser. I simply want to spit on his grave and have the opportunity to destroy his reputation after his death.

I want to know about and watch as he suffers.

Because no matter what abuses he did or will try to throw at me, I will always have one ace card, I am younger than him and will outlive him and when all his minions are gone -- as they will be.. I will get to write his reputation and story.

Possibly trigger

How the hell can you blame me? You did this and chose to do so! I was just a little kid, you knew what you did was wrong! Then saying "I was a kid too" you were 12-15 you knew it was wrong, why would you tell me "not tell mum and dad or I Will go to prison"? Just because I didn't ****ing say no doesn't mean anything. And when you found out my coach sexually abused me, you didn't stop! You just used it against me. And now I told someone and mum and dad know, you're manipulating them, so now they're blaming me too. How could you do this to me?! You're my older brother, you should protect me. And now I'm broke because of you. I will never be able to see myself naked, I can't even take a ****ing shower without getting flashbacks. But the worst thing is that you're blaming me. Idiot.

Sorry, but I needed to get it out. My parents are protecting him (girls are 2 years earlier developed, you were even. He didn't force you. Why did you tell, now we have to go through this ****. Etc.) I just want to hurt him, not physically but mentally.

I would say:

"I pity you.

I don't have to live with you anymore, but you are stuck with yourself for the rest of your life. You can never escape you. I am free; you are not.

I pity you. I hope you get some help while I move on with my life.

Good luck and good bye."

Much to your chagrin, the truth will come out. The whole truth and nothing but the TRUTH!! All of it will come out. I will NEVER FORGET!!

Get that through your massive ego.

I hate who you really are,I loved the person that you pretended to be.I remember the time when I saw you being your true self,you were ugly,disgusting,crude,ill mannered,demanding,selfish,full of contempt and hatred for me and everyone else and life itself.I think you are a demon only concerned for what you can consume and devour for yourself.You have no feelings for anyone but yourself and you want power and control but you only want it so that you can be one of the world's takers and destroyers,you do not know how to give or how to love.It is incomprehensible to me how you can bear to be so self centred and paranoid and against others.I know you are empty inside and full of nothingness,and the only way you can express the pain of this is by being violent and abusive.Well you are not taking that out on me anymore I am done being your punching bag.Go away and stay away I don't want you I never loved you and I still don't love you,not who you really are,you disgust me!