Is this SA? Trigger Warning

Trigger warning

I'm not sure if I can call this sexual assault. My ex fiance wanted another child while I didnt at the time.

It's just the "I could've" that makes me say no.

I did conceive from that as well. I love my son but it's tough to get over that's how he was made.

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Originally Posted by Mi Amor Trigger warning I'm not sure if I can call this sexual assault. My ex fiance wanted another child while I didnt at the time. Possible trigger: He did ignore me "protesting" about having intimacy at that moment but proceeded anyway. I could've probably pushed him off but just lay there crying. I didn't fight because I thought he might e been drinking and that's when he can become violent. It's just the "I could've" that makes me say no. I did conceive from that as well. I love my son but it's tough to get over that's how he was made.

If you love your son why do you care about how he was conceived ? If you felt you were raped why didn't you get an abortion ? At least it is your husbands child. The fact that he was drunk I'm sure had something to do with his behavior. I'm not excusing his behavior at all , but the issue now is you have a son , that you love. Continue to love that child and maybe he'll grow up and change the world. Seems like he was meant to be here.
Btw: maybe you should talk out your inner feelings about this with a therapist.

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Most definitely a sexual assault!

I'm sorry this happened to you ...

I hope you're able to get some help processing the event ...

As well as help regarding the impact it's now having on how you relate to your son.

You & your son deserve to not have to carry the burden of guilt over something that was not y'all's fault!

National Sexual Assault Hotline
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1-800-656-HOPE (4673)

Sincerely,
Pflower

@MoodyBlue , I think you need to rethink your entire response. Not sure your know the first thing that you're talking about and should keep these opinions to yourself.

Your protesting makes it non-consensual; in my book that makes it a sexual assault. It is not the theoretical possibility of pushing somebody off that un-makes it non-consensual. You most likely had a reason not to: a history of violence as you point out for instance. Regardless, a no should be a no in all circumstances.

I do hope you find a way to get over it. Do you have a therapist? There are efficient approachs that help you deal with such traumatic experiences (e.g. emdr).

Also, I admire you for loving your son no matter what. Many would find that hard to do and I sincerely hope you can continue to do so.

Hugs!