[Kiya]

whoooooooo hoooooooo my stalker is back to calling me. i've not heard from him in over a year and suddenly he calls. i even forgot the number, so i answered... and only heard breathing and music in the back ground until he hung up. then he texted me.
i stopped answering his calls after his third fionce "died" and he wanted to visit me. now i'm jumping at noises again.

[RozG]

((((((((Kiya))))))))

i'm sorry he's started again. i hope you're doing all you need to keep safe.
please take care. i'm sorry i don't know what else to say atm.

[onlymedid]

KIYA

Please try to be safe. Can you call the police? Are they willing to help you? Is there anyone you can call if this person gets to be too much for you to handle? I just worry about you and hope you are going to be safe.

Please PM if there is anything I can help with or just to talk.

BJ

[Kiya]

((((((((((((Roz, BJ)))))))))))))))

I'm fine - just shaken. He's in a different time zone than me... he keeps saying he's gonna come here and visit but then he thankfully doesn't. Sadly, someone did give him my address. *sigh*. But I am not returning his calls and i just keep hoping he'll not show up on my door one day. Pattern is he calls and calls and calls... then calls to visit... then calls to tell me he's getting married and not visiting... the calls to tell me his girlfriend died and can he come visit. I mean, at first i thought he was very strange and could tell he liked me so tried to avoid him. but ppl kept putting us together and telling me to have compassion. so *sigh* i did. Then he told me about his girlfriend dying and I felt sorry for him. Then after that we went our own ways and he called and told me he was getting married - yay (whew) congrats... all that... but then he called to tell me she died...i thought it was really bad luck that lightening would strike twice. then the third time this all happened again I was like - ok this guy's a psycho and needs to stay the h*** away from me. So a year or more has passed and thankfully he had given up.... so why he calls me now?! out of the blue... and jst says nothing and just listens to me, hangs up, then pages me to ask me if i am who he thinks.... CREEPY. i just hope he'll give up again and leave me alone. i don't want to hear about any more dead girlfriends ... or be the next one. as long as he stays in his own time zone.... it just weirded me out and i wanted to reach out. thanks for reading.

[onlymedid]

((((((((KIYA))))))))) I can understand why you feel weirded out...I would too! I hope he gives up, too...but no one should have to live in anticipation of the next call or the fear that he will show up. That is so not fair and he is a HUGE CREEP!!!
I think it is horrible for him to play with your mind and emotions the way he does.
I hope you can feel safe in your own home.


BJ

[Kiya]

thanks! really glad i have to tonight.

[bchlyn]

kiya i don't know how it works when he is in a different state... i have a restraining order... it hasn't done any good ...he still is vandalizing my cars... but at least he isn't waiting at my car anymore... can you get one just in case?... stay safe...lyn

[Kiya]

thanks lyn. i will stay safe. can you believe i forgot to tell t ?? saw her tonight... thought about it for a moment, and then it was gone again.

(((Kiya ))))))))))))))))))))
Stay safe
let the answering machine pick up change your # if you need too
do what ever you need to keep you safe
muffy

[Kiya]

thanks muffy!!!

[Boskid]

Can you get your number changed by any chance?
How did he get your details etc?

And yeah, he sounds creepy...

[Kiya]

Odd you should post this today.... guess who i got a letter from with a picture in it? It is an invite to his wedding - his 4th fionce.... i have a mind to track down her parents and inform them the other three have mysteriously died.

someone else gave him both my phone number and home address...

[bchlyn]

stay safe kiya...lyn

[Boskid]

Go to the Police, I'm sure they can do something if you put your foot down and tell them it's a serious situation.

The Police are there to protect citizens, if they're not protecting you from him, they're not doing their job.

Thats the only advice I can give, look out for yourself,

Boskid.

[john4]

Lookafter yourself, keep safe, my heart goes out to you. Look after yourself.

[Kiya]

thanks all - i am staying safe. i really don't think he'll show up here. it is just sort of creepy to know he hasn't gone away. he's back after a year. he's about 4,000 miles away from me. i just hate that a phone call (with him only listening to me), a text message, and a piece of mail can unnerve me so much - when i know he's not near by.

[bchlyn]

i understand... stay safe...do you have a restraining order?...lyn

[Kiya]

no - i don't think i need one. i still wonder about tracking down that girl's parents. do i have any responsability here? should i be informing someone?

[bchlyn]

i think you need to be very careful... you don't need to make yourself a target... maybe call the police in her area and explain your fears to them... that way they have the call on record if he tries anything... please be safe...lyn

[Kiya]

huh! there is a good idea. I should google him - see what I come up with....

[Notonlyme]

Im there for you Kiya

((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((Kiya))))))))))))))))))))))))))

[Kiya]

thank you very much =) still i have not put in call to the police - not for me, but for the girl he's marrying - just incase. my fam is freaked about my doing that - they don't want me involved. I dunno...

[Kiya]

Soooooooo he called again yseterday - i missed the call - he didn't leave a message. wow i'm shaking. i just tried to call the police in the town of where his new fionce lives because the pattern is starting over again and he either just got married or is about to... and for him to call again, a little over a month from last time, (according to the pattern) would mean that his (4th) fionce "died". and now would mean he wants to visit me again.
i'm really shaking.
i tried to get the cops to check on the girl but they said they can't and that I should call the parents.
Well, if she's still alive, the liklihood of their believing me is slim (they don't know me from of) and if she did just die - that's not a scene i want to walk in on.....
what to do???

[Cthomas]

Hey kiya, sorry that is happening again. I cannot imagine how you must feel

Im online off and on all day.

Thinking of you....

Coll

[Kiya]

well i did call the girl's parents and found out that they were married on june 3rd. so i dunno why he's calling me.
i also dunno why he sent the wedding invite to me with a heart sticker on it!