my life has been really good. as long as things were blocked and past forgotten. now someone inside is remembering--or rather sharing memories. abuse by my H. not ready to look at it. he's not the same now. it's safe with him now. but all the "stuff" is coming as little flashes like a blurb on a screen. i'm doing the best i can to block. but there is anger in there too--an angry one who keeps saying "i won't let her forget".
she inside asks "how can you continue to live with him who hurt me?"
much anxiety.
wi

[Luce]

Hi.
It all sounds pretty hard.
I can relate to a lot of what you say. To me, life is/was normal. No problem here. Others within me disagree and won't let me forget either. The main abuser that I still see is very different now too. Or so I think, others say.
It's all too hard for my poor brain.

I don't have any advice, sorry. Only empathy for where you are. I think my life would tick along just fine if only others inside would let it go.

I don't know what the solution is.

[Sannah]

Can you talk about this anger either in therapy or here? Interesting how the abuse stopped............

He realized what was happening. Got therapy. Life stressors changed.
He wanted to change.

[Fuzzybear]

(((((((((((((( white iris )))))))))))))))

[Sannah]

Originally Posted by white_iris

He realized what was happening. Got therapy. Life stressors changed.
He wanted to change.

This is really good and really not all that common. But you still have some anger about it. That sounds normal. Can you talk to your H and tell him that you are so glad that things are better but you want to talk about your anger? Did he ever apoligize to you? Is any of the anger that you have also from other abusers?

[melissa1202]

Originally Posted by white_iris

an angry one who keeps saying "i won't let her forget".
she inside asks "how can you continue to live with him who hurt me?"
much anxiety.
wi

((((white Iris)))))) I ask myself that question for many years? Your in the of the rule, with the abuse stopping. Good luck and take care of yourself

[chaotic13]

Originally Posted by white_iris

He realized what was happening. Got therapy. Life stressors changed.
He wanted to change.

So he got help...did you? Maybe you are not supposed to just block your anger. Maybe you are supposed to share it with him, so he understands how the abuse affected you. Then you both can work on repairing that damage. Now might be a good time for some join counseling.