[wanttoheal]

sex offender of children from 1958 until recently. cant remember dates. 30 hours community service, 5 years probation, register as sex offender. That's it. What the hell.

[wisewoman]

Yes, ad y spouse who was protecting his children gets much worse then that. Don't you love or political/legal system? Poor victims of his who see this and feel that their pain does not count, that what he did was not that bad.

[SweetCrusader]

*SAFE hugs* <-- but ONLY if wanted

[wanttoheal]

Hi. I'm not sure where this post came from. Apparently some part of me was affected by something but I don't have a clue. Thank you for your support everyone. I wasn't alive in 1958 so I wouldn't guess it was someone I know. But I don't know what it's about either. Rather embarassing but anyway, thank you for your support.

[BamaSurvivor]

It does make me think about my grandfather, though... Aside from him molesting me when I was 5, he raped his daughter (who has downsyndrome) several times, who has the mind of a 5 year old... She has speech problems and since they couldn't find a translater appointed by the courts, they threw his case out, even though they had pictures of the bruises between her thighs from where he forced himself on her. He's still out walking free and not even listed as a sex offender. :| Gotta love the system. Grr

[phoenix30]

It makes me so fu**ing angry thinking about the bloody legal systems and how people who sexually abuse are alowed to be reintegrated into society at all.

A paedophile cannot be rehabilitated. A paedophile will re-offend, given the opportunity. The average paedophile will have 100 victims during their years of offending. A paedophile will not stop. Most paedophiles find comfort amongst one another - which is why paedophile rings are so successful - they feed off one another, seeking reassurance and acceptance. In scotland 97% of people convicted of a sexual crime against a child are male.

The only way that paedophiles will be convicted and punished and prevented from carrying out these horrendous acts is if the laws that currently protect their so called 'human rights' are changed.

The law needs to protect children. The law should allow a paedophile to be convicted and not for a case to be 'thrown out of court'.

The judges who hand out these so called sentences must find the courage and conviction to really punish these people and hand out 'real' sentences.

Rant over, x

This whole sex offender thing kinda makes me feel wierd. I've thought for a long time that maybe I could do something to the one who molested me... in a legal sense. The other part of me says that it was years ago... learn to forgive, work through it, and be the bigger man. Is that crazy?

Ryan

[kimmydawn]

rem, prosecuting an offender could be possible even tho years have passed. in fact, t was mandated to report abuse that had happened to me ages ago as a child. he was mandated. ugh

there's a thing and it's state to state, that allows for prosecution after memories are retrieved and the adult acknowledges as abuse. so, you very well be able to act on it now if that's your wish. something to talk with t about?

love,

kd

[phoenix30]

The person who molested me is dead. He died when I was 24. It's too late for me to do anything to punish him (I mean legally, charges, court etc).

Now, 6 years on, I feel like I can never 'do anything' about it. He is dead. The only thing that'll come of it now if I was 'to tell' is that my family will be hurt and have to go thru that. Can't do that to them. Just can't. I hate him for dying. How f***ed up is that? I hate him for dying. I wish he was here today to be punished. I hate that he is dead and got away with it all.

If I could, I wouldn't hesitate to report him to the police, to my T, to my friends, to someone so that he could be punished. If I could, I would put him in prison, where he should have been 20 years ago. But I'm too late. Too f****in' late.

Hindsight. What a wonderful gift.

I really do hope you're ok rem, I hope you're ok.

Talk it over, and make a decision for you.