First, i have a VERY difficult t appt. THEN i come home and i've received class reunion mail for my !#@^#@*!! brother c/o my address!!! i was so angry i called the reunion company right away and told them i never wanted to receive mail for that pedophile b****** again! How they connected us...man! i legally changed my name to something comPLETEly different 16 years ago! GRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRR

***triggers***At therapy i got to talking about how sometimes i wonder if maybe i'm just psychic and cosmically aware through collective consciousness of ritual abuse tactics. My new therapist (rightfully) wanted to explore that and it made part of me mad and discounted. She later explained she needed to listen to all my parts even if other parts didn't want her to and that helped cuz it makes a lot of sense but it was really really hard.

Then to come home to a piece of mail with my @$$**** brother's name on it! GRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRR

i mean, i've NEVER received mail for him. It's just so shocking!

In therapy i wanted to die i felt such a strong reaction and had such a strong reaction to everything and then to come home to that!

STOMP STOMP STOMP

Can I stomp with you? That's lousey you got his mail especially since you changed your name. I'm sorry that happened.
Therapy sounds hard today. I can relate. Please be kind to you and yours.

Yes please, i'd LOVE it if you stomped with me. STOMP STOMP STOMP!!!! oooooo i'm SO mad! i know it's not the reunion company's fault but i just feel so...violated! The lady told me a searcher (read skiptracer) worked on it and found us at the same address (40 years ago!) and that's why they sent it to me because they figured we were relatives. Well--sort of--though even that pisses me off cuz the mf state i live in should have NEVER let my parents adopt me. There were rumors in the neighborhood about my sister and they even (according to my sister who has abandoned me) interviewed her and neighbors and, later when i was a state social worker i was able to find out there was even a CPS report regarding her. Yeah yeah they didn't prove it blah blah. It was the worstest home ever!

UGH. i know i'm overreacting but i just wanna scream!

Thank you friend my friend friend. i needed that.

but yeah, i'm still upset that someone so easily made the connection that me from then is me from now with a whole 'nuther name. It's not that i'm hiding cuz i know my brother knows where i live...just bugs me. ARGH! Gosh i'm just so mad!

*and i'm getting sick of thinking of stuff AFTER i hit submit!

Originally Posted by MeSo

Yes please, i'd LOVE it if you stomped with me. STOMP STOMP STOMP!!!! oooooo i'm SO mad! i know it's not the reunion company's fault but i just feel so...violated! The lady told me a searcher (read skiptracer) worked on it and found us at the same address (40 years ago!) and that's why they sent it to me because they figured we were relatives. Well--sort of--though even that pisses me off cuz the mf state i live in should have NEVER let my parents adopt me. There were rumors in the neighborhood about my sister and they even (according to my sister who has abandoned me) interviewed her and neighbors and, later when i was a state social worker i was able to find out there was even a CPS report regarding her. Yeah yeah they didn't prove it blah blah. It was the worstest home ever!

UGH. i know i'm overreacting but i just wanna scream!

Thank you friend my friend friend. i needed that.

You're very welcome.
Is that even legal for a skip tracer to do that for something as minor as a reunion?

Originally Posted by Calista+12

You're very welcome.
Is that even legal for a skip tracer to do that for something as minor as a reunion?

Yeah, anyone can look for anyone for any reason. Sucks to be so exposed. At least i wasn't trying to hide. Changed name cuz felt adoptive family had no right to have me or name me. Divorced them after they abandoned me. i was made the scapegoat for my father's death. Sigh...names for them are hard cuz now i have/had two mothers and two fathers. All of them are hard. i going off.

i don't blame the searcher or the company. It just triggered me. i so mad at my brother. He never said sorry either--not that sorry makes it better. But here i struggle with what's real...the horrors. Wish he'd just own up to it all and put me out of my questioning misery.

Part of me just wants to stomp stomp stomp. i thank you friend. Needed help. You're not responsible to do that for me but i'm grateful anyway, k.

[Sannah]

[chaotic13]

I say stomp a way. I hate when credit agencies or others attempt to contact dead beat family members through me.

[Miri]

Originally Posted by MeSo

Yeah, anyone can look for anyone for any reason. Sucks to be so exposed. At least i wasn't trying to hide. Changed name cuz felt adoptive family had no right to have me or name me. Divorced them after they abandoned me. i was made the scapegoat for my father's death. Sigh...names for them are hard cuz now i have/had two mothers and two fathers. All of them are hard. i going off.

i don't blame the searcher or the company. It just triggered me. i so mad at my brother. He never said sorry either--not that sorry makes it better. But here i struggle with what's real...the horrors. Wish he'd just own up to it all and put me out of my questioning misery.

Part of me just wants to stomp stomp stomp. i thank you friend. Needed help. You're not responsible to do that for me but i'm grateful anyway, k.

I'd be furious, too!!!! Good that you are ranting here and keep it up as long as you need to! I'm sure many of us are stomping mad on your behalf. Don't you really, really hate it when you've already had a very tough day and then something else comes along and craps on you all over again? It was my turn for that a few weeks ago. Curse till you burst!

LOL yes, i really do hate that! Thanks so much for the back-up!