Low self esteem

I don't know if this is where i should post this but this is gonna be a long night i feel like complete ****. I hate how i look. Im so ugly and not only that, i don't know how to make myself look better. I'm 19 and I don't know how to pluck my eyebroows, put on makeup, do my hair or dress nice. I'm so ugly and fat and I can't do anything abou it. I watch videos on youtube about how to apply make up amd Fhe girls are gorgeous but then i look at myself and know that'll neever be the case with me. I dont know about makeup brushes or how to style my hair. Everyday i wear black jeans with a " aaa" t shirt. I suck at being a girl and i hate myself. My sister is beautiful and she knows how to be a girl. Even with a kid she still looks awesome. People have always looked at her and then me and have said to me "what happened to YOU" i got the **** end of the stick. Im so ugly people tell me how i ugly i am. Im fat amd i suck. I hate myself. http://i932.photobucket.com/albums/ad168/maskela/ecf90f5f.jpg why am i so ugly??????

Hi pammy,

I'm sorry you're feeling so down...I can relate for sure. But you are certainly not ugly, hon I love your hair and you have great features. Just wondering, have you thought about asking your sister for help with makeup and things like that? Are you close with her? Maybe you and she can have a girl's day or something and talk about these things.. Hang in there, I know how it feels and it sucks ****. I'm 16 and overweight, full of acne, and my greasy hair is only 6 inches long..so I guess it could be worse! I hope this helps somewhat..talking about our feelings is half the battle.

Indie

Thank you, but i just can't shAke this feeling I've asked her before and she'd make fun of me and just laugh i feel gross and i'm working out daily but ahhhh!!!! I hate how i feel

Sounds like you need a healthy role model in your life...is there a caring friend or a nice aunt you could talk to? Remember that we're always here to listen as well...I do hope you feel better soon. Keep talking if it helps x

The best thing about being a woman (besides the perogative to have a little fun ) is that each woman is unique. You don't have to be just like your sister to be beautiful. You are lovely just the way you are. All beauty is is playing up your assets, masking the things you don't like and learning to have confidence in who you are- and to love that person.
If you want to work on improving your looks, go for it! Experiment! If you've got the money, try going to a salon or make up counter and asking for some advice. If you're like me and don't have the money, magazines are (cheap) beauty tip treasure troves. Buy some mascara and eyeshadow and play with it! See what looks good to you. Almay has those sets for every eye color, which would be a great start if you're not sure which to pick. Wear lip gloss! Clear is always safe. LOL Who cares if you don't look just like the girl on the youtube video? If you feel good, you look good. Developing your own style will take time and trying different things, but don't let that stop you.
You can be beautiful, just the way you are. I wear make up and style my hair and I still feel like I look like total **** somedays. I hope you find a way to accept and appreciate your own beauty, my friend.

Oh boy...I'm 31 and I STILL think I'm an idiot because I totally suck at putting on makeup! So I hardly ever wear any. I'm blind as a bat anyhow so I look pretty dreadful trying to slather the stuff on.

Remember one thing - all that makeup those "pretty" girls put on is going to age them quicker than you. Makeup clogs the pores and ages skin. Less is more babe, I can tell you! I've been to my high school reunion, and wow, those "pretty" girls ain't looking so hot these days!

You'll figure it out - don't EVER dress for other people, dress for YOURSELF. It is YOU who has to feel pretty in what you have on. Stuff everyone else!

you are so cute! i just saw a model who looked like you the other day (her hair was short and black and she had lots of piercing but similar features..)

BUT your expression looks so worried!! don't be so scared! enjoy how you look. you look like you are giving off this expression of "don't like me! i am not perfect"... god knows i had that as a teen too but it's just not true. if you don't wait for one or more boyfriends to tell you so... it will be easier on EVERYONE... trust me i speak from experience!

and if you want to dress more feminine borders has some great books on fashion, you can go buy a cup of coffee and steal all the ideas..

OMG! You are pretty. Those eyes, the arched eyebrows, full lips. And hair, wow. You look a little wild to me. Can you swing a sword?

And I am sure you can find people who will tell you you are ugly. If you let them. Lot of people are insecure, and making others feel like cr*p, makes them feel good about themselves. Don't give their insecurity a free ride. Unfortunately your sister seems to be one of them. You can't win in a contest in which SHE is the measuring stick.

I encourage you to explore a bit. Have a free make-up done, get one of those "glamour" shots (sometime they run coupons). See if that's who you are.

Search your deeper mind. Maybe your ineptness with a makeup brush is a rebellion against the pressures to be one kind of pretty. You know that straight girls can be butch too, right? Dunno if you've seen any Eureka (sci-fi show) but you made me think of Jo Lupo the deputy sheriff. You look a bit like her. She is a graduate of West Point, strong, muscled, unadorned and sexy like hell. Even though in the beginning of the show Jo is not having much luck in a romance department she does later and is presented as quite attractive. In one of the episode a young, pretty scientist envies Jo so much, she morphs herself into her and attempts to replace her. Confident, competent women are attractive, especially to a secure man who does not need his partner to be less than his equal. And believe me, you'd rather deal with those than the insecure ones and their delicate egos.

It's all for you to discover. I encourage you to stop listening to "them" and hear people here. We saw your pic, and no one thought you are ugly. That's because we have no hidden agenda to do so.