[moviebuff]

I cant talk without my eyes welling and sounding as if i am crying.I am not able to control my crying especially in stressful and anxious situations like arguing with my husband.I even cry when i am getting my son to do his school work.When he fails to understand something i start crying .I hate it .Why is this happening?My mother is like this and i grew her watching her cry for everything.I am afraid i will turn my child also into a crybaby.

[Miss Laura]

Hey Moviebuff,

I am the same and I really don't have any answers for you bar I know where you are coming from. I cry at sad films, tv programmes, I cry at the least little thing now a days and I never use to be like that. I wish I could turn the water off but I can't

[Open Eyes]

Moviebuff have you been to a gyno lately? Often times the crying can come with that time of month that is somehow called a friend? I have no idea why anyone would call it that do you? Anyway if you are crying a lot it could be something to do with your hormone levels. And if you are nearing the time for the change of life, um thats when your friend doesn't want to visit anymore and for some reason you are completely sad because of it. It is just so wonderful to be a woman.

Open Eyes

[googley]

Hi,
Have you changed your medication recently? When I went off Effexor because of money issues, I cried at everything. I also second getting your hormone levels checked, and your vitamin levels. Those being off can cause all sorts of problems.
Good luck at finding the problem.

[xp1155]

I have been like this on and off since having my hysterectomy in December. I hate feeling this way. I never cried over anything and now, all of the sudden, I am sensitive to everything. It's annoying!

Since mine is OB-GYN related, the only thing I can suggest is that perhaps something has changed in that area for you too.

[moviebuff]

Originally Posted by googley

Hi,
Have you changed your medication recently? When I went off Effexor because of money issues, I cried at everything. I also second getting your hormone levels checked, and your vitamin levels. Those being off can cause all sorts of problems.
Good luck at finding the problem.

Though my problem has been going on for a long time, i am yet to go to a doctor.Its worsening.Iam always irritable,moody and ready to cry....its not for movies n stuff but daily situations like talking to people etc.If i get my hormones checked what should i get tested for?

[moviebuff]

Originally Posted by Open Eyes

Moviebuff have you been to a gyno lately? Often times the crying can come with that time of month that is somehow called a friend? I have no idea why anyone would call it that do you? Anyway if you are crying a lot it could be something to do with your hormone levels. And if you are nearing the time for the change of life, um thats when your friend doesn't want to visit anymore and for some reason you are completely sad because of it. It is just so wonderful to be a woman.

Open Eyes

I am 36.is it possible that am menopausal?No, i've not visited any doctor yet.

[moviebuff]

Originally Posted by xp1155

I have been like this on and off since having my hysterectomy in December. I hate feeling this way. I never cried over anything and now, all of the sudden, I am sensitive to everything. It's annoying!

Since mine is OB-GYN related, the only thing I can suggest is that perhaps something has changed in that area for you too.

will do asap.thanx.

[googley]

I don't know exactly what you should get checked. Your doctor would though. Definitely your thyroid as that can cause all sorts of problems. And your vitamin levels. I hope you get this all figured out.

[Open Eyes]

Oh I didn't know a thyroid problem could cause emotional issues. I was going to have that checked myself as I hear it can cause the pulse heard in my ears.

And Moviebuff, you can have a blood test to check your hormone levels. Menapause can happen in the thirties although it is not the norm. If you are on birth control that can make your mood off too. I had endometriosis and that really effected my moods during my cycle. So seeing your gyno should be on your list.

Let us know how you make out.

Open Eyes

[moviebuff]

Open Eyes,i too have this problem wherein i feel like my hearts racing .When this happens i feel like i am in school and have the have pre-exam jitters.

[Open Eyes]

Oh that is an anxiety attack. I have those too. But what I have is the sound of my heart in my right ear and it comes and goes.

In an anxiety attack it feels like your heart is racing but it really isn't. I know, lol, I was rushed to the hospital thinking I was having a heart attack and my heart felt like it was racing but it was fine. That is when I learned about anxiety attacks.

I hate anxiety attacks. I find that getting online and just talking on PC really helps me slow down and relax. I try to present as much positive thoughts as possible and it really helps.

Open Eyes

[objtrbit]

Originally Posted by moviebuff

I cant talk without my eyes welling and sounding as if i am crying.I am not able to control my crying especially in stressful and anxious situations like arguing with my husband.I even cry when i am getting my son to do his school work.When he fails to understand something i start crying .I hate it .Why is this happening?My mother is like this and i grew her watching her cry for everything.I am afraid i will turn my child also into a crybaby.

Hey there,

Maybe there is a way to breakdown what it is your feeling;

For example, the next time you cry-or even if you can remember what you were feeling in one of your above examples (like getting your son to do your school work).

It might be really hard to do, but I'm always gonna be thinkin that there may be deeper underlying, unresolved issues here...especially since you said your mom did that too; to clarify, I don't wanna write it off as genetic. What wass it like to go through watching your mom cry? As a little kid, it must have caused you some distress?

You're afraid your child will turn into a "crybaby" as well?

I'm curious as to what you feel when you do not feel understood; it's okay if you're not sure...I think if you can talk about it though, it may help uncover some of these mysteries.

I cry at stressful situations too...usually when its the most embarressing...you know, like cry in front of my teacher as oppossed to not being able to cry at my T's. lol. Mostly for me, it is triggered by someone not hearing me out, or when I fear anger or criticism towards me. I just get this sense of hopelessness.

What all goes on in your mind before, during, and after you cry?

Take care,
-obj

[moviebuff]

obj,
You are right.The reason why i feel my son will become a crybaby is 'cause as you know watching my mum cry all the time made me unable to cope with my emotions.So now when I'm overwhelmed i just do what i grew up watching.....cry.Its easy to put blame on the parent for every unfortunate behavior one has ... now obviously i feel as if i am passing the same trait to my son.Imagine him having a meltdown during a boardroom meeting at 35 .
You ask what i feel after the breakdown....just guilt and embarrassment....failure as a mother.

[objtrbit]

Originally Posted by moviebuff

obj,
You are right.The reason why i feel my son will become a crybaby is 'cause as you know watching my mum cry all the time made me unable to cope with my emotions.

Since you are aware that this issue bothers you, already you are a step ahead of where you once were. I think this could be a good opportunity to work through something with your son, be a bonding experience. You can in your own pace, find natural coping stratedgies for yourself that your son may pick up too; I don't think any of this would happen over night-we can't just stop something we've been doing our whole lives. I believe talking releases burdens though-so I'm thinkin exploring alla the feelings you have around crying will help.

So now when I'm overwhelmed i just do what i grew up watching.....cry.

What was it like for you to watch your mom cry? Did you grow up with a father? what did he feel about it? I feel there could be a lot of clues there, in your childhood, that could help resolve this issue for you;

Its easy to put blame on the parent for every unfortunate behavior one has ...

That's stressful fer realz. I'm thinking you're doing your best. Personally I'm scared of having the responsibility! (My intent here is not to make you feel guilty-you sound really hard on yourself as it is! I'm thinkin through that if you are able to get in touch with how you felt back then seeing it, it might help you be able to communicate what you're going through when it happens. Alo, how did your mom react when you cried as a kid?)

You were affected by your mom-it doesn't mean you are simply blaming her-did you not go through emotions when she cried? You have a right to express those things you felt. In the same way, if you allow your son to explore what he feels around the subject, the goal would not be to blame you, but for his expression and feelings to be talked about it a safe enviroment. I'm not sure how old your son is...so maybe if he's real young communication on the deeper levels may have to wait...but it's always good to ask how anybody is doing if you feel you are affecting them...it helps them feel your care.

I'm wondering if you were ever allowed to talk about how you're mom crying made you feel, and how that went;

now obviously i feel as if i am passing the same trait to my son.Imagine him having a meltdown during a boardroom meeting at 35 .

This is a lot of stress for you imagining that right here; it mut truly be a diificult thing to experience!

You ask what i feel after the breakdown....just guilt and embarrassment....failure as a mother.

awww (((moviebuff))) Hope you keep talking about it moviebuff; I'm thinkin' there is a lot to explore around all the feelings of crying;

Take care,
-obj