Missing my home

I am working away from home across the pond from my home New York. I moved to London with my partner 2 years ago and now I am home sick and wish to return home. The problem I have my partner he loves London and hates New York.
I asked him if we can return to New York and he believes this is not for him but for me it the only why I can be happy. I have express how I feel but he not helping by talking about it. Its not in my mind home or my relationship which leaves me at a crossroads.

I can understand how you feel. My boyfriend would love to move to Vermont, Connecticut or New Hampshire, if he could get work up there, but I'd be much happier in New York or maybe California (not sure about the earthquakes, though). I am not telling you what to do, but I'll be honest about me: If I felt that homesick after a move, I'd break up and move back home. Find someone else who loves to live where I do.

to PC,

I am sorry that you're feeling homesick, missing NY, and your partner is unwilling to move back. I think that the ultimate decision (whether or not you decide to end it & move back) depends on a few things. Do you have money to rely on, a place to stay until a permanent home is found, as well as decent job prospects if (and when) you do return? Have you mentioned these things to your S.O., and gotten him to explain why he is so against moving back to NY?

Perhaps discussing this subject in a more detailed manner will help you both accept the other's perspective. Perhaps one of you will change your mind about where you stand, or maybe you'll decide it's best to go separate ways. No matter what the results are, you will have more information to help you make a decision that you feel comfortable with.

Best wishes to you!

Ya its feel very bad and we miss all our family member. And if you are women then... you very well know.

Missing home is not a fun feeling and I am so sorry about this. I can relate to how hard this. Is there a way that you might be able to make some visits home in the interim, or get set up with a webcam with the friends and family at home to help, or to talk more with them before making any decisions, or even with helping to make any decisions?

Meanwhile talking with each other and listening is going to be the key. Perhaps there will be compromise such as a time limit on how long y'all will stay there, or his helping to pay for more visits home; or perhaps he or you are not willing to compromise and it is time to go separate ways. It helps to have a job lined up though if it comes to this or even if both decide to move for both of you. It still comes down to only you can decide what is in your best interest but you have to take care of you first and foremost. Life is too short to be miserable. There may be some other solutions though than to just move but if it turns out moving is the answer, do whatever is in your best interest and feel the most comfortable with doing. Hang in there meanwhile and with whatever you decide, wishing you the best!!!

I have never missed home. I have spent half of my life away from home and never have experienced nostalgia. But, I know people who do experience nostalgia, and from their accounts I know that this can be an enormously strong feeling. If it is that strong for you, you should probably prioritize all other relationships, needs, and basically everything else below living at home, because otherwise nostalgia is just going to make you more and more miserable. Nor is there anything you can do about it - a person either has nostalgia or she does not.