No baby

Ok, this seems somewhat silly but I forgot to go get my birth control shot in October (oops! usually I cramp and spot the week before I'm supposed to get it - nothing). I slept with an ex on December 23. I got the test results back from the doctor today - not pregnant. I still haven't had a period.

Now for the kinda silly part. He lives in New Mexico (the guy who would have been the father if there was a baby), I live in Texas. Before Christmas he told me he was unwilling to move to Texas, into the house I own to give a try at a relationship (we've never actually lived in the same state but have dated several times.. known each other for 12 years). A couple of years ago he offered to move down here and marry me but I had just gotten out of an abusive relationship and didn't want to carry that with me.

Fast forward to this year: he was very adamant about liking his life there and his friends and the fact that he was in the same town as his family and therefore would not be moving. When I thought I might be pregnant, I told him and there was some blame throwing around.

I called him today to tell him the test was negative.. what do you know - he was sad too. Totally not the response I was expecting! I told him my offer still stands. He can move down here and still pay all his bills there so he has a place to go if we decide it's not going to work and he doesn't screw his roommate with the lease. He's considering it. I'm shocked - and happy - and sad all at the same time.

I really hope that it works out for the two of you

I'm still sad... and still no period.. and I'm pretty sure the guy was just kinda flipped. He hasn't been interested in talking in the last few days. :-( So no baby and no boyfriend.

Wow! we talked some more.. turns out he's only considering moving here to have a child with me. He's not interested in trying to form a relationship. I feel like a *****.. well not really. Apparently I'm good enough to be his child's mother but not good enough to date him. F*&^ that. I'm better than that. Besides which if I'm going to do it all essentially myself anyway it seems to me the better course of action would be to sleep with a guy who has no interest in the child so at least the child would be mine and there would be no "old relationship" baggage in the way. And he wouldn't be in the way. Somehow it all leaves me feeling kinda used.

look at the bright side here though please, I know a lot of female friends that have gotten pregnant and the guy skipped out on them-- they are having to be a single parent due to they can't track the guy down that is the dad.

The bright side is this guy you speak of, if I read it right, was willing to help out if there was a baby.

And ya know, if he does not want a relationship -- why bother if that is what you are looking for you have gotten your answer right?

The shot you mention, is it depo? (Depo-Provera)....
I am on that, and after a while no spotting, some time really horrible cramps though well before needing the shot (but it is different for each as well). Depending on how long you have been using it (if Depo) spotting even when missing a shot can be "normal".
I have also heard from reading from other women on other sites that use Depo that even after they stop getting it, some of them take a year with trying before they get pregnant with a baby,.

Sorry this may be sweet little nothings,

but hoping you well

It is the Depo-Provera shot. I've been on it for 4-5 years. When I was diagnosed with bipolar disorder I decided that was one cycle I could eliminate (I always had terrible periods - even on the pill). This is the first time I haven't spotted just before I needed my shot.

No, not really like a ***** - more like an egg donor / womb-for-rent of sorts, but not like a *****.

I'm sorry you have had to go through that You most definitely deserve better!

He's definitely on my s*(& list right now... which seems to be growing longer by the day - which usually means AWESOME mixed episode time.