I have an issue and need your advice!

Hello, I'm new to this forum so please forgive me if I'm posting this in the wrong area. I've been looking for a good forum for some advice about a personal issue, so here it is.

First I'll explain a few things about myself. I will be turning 20 on Sunday, which is scary! Mostly scary because my life isn't exactly going anywhere at the moment (sorry to be a downer, this might get a little depressing.) And I am currently suffering from severe depression and anxiety. I won't be talking about that, though.

The issue that is currently always on my mind is a body issue, you've probably guessed it, my breasts. Now don't think "oh God, another young girl who wants bigger breasts." That's not the case here! I'm honestly not bothered about size. Well, in one way I am actually. My breasts are odd sized, meaning one is much bigger than the other and I don't think they're fully developed either. They just don't look like full bloomed breasts, more like moobs. :/

I know a lot of other women have this too. I just don't know how to cope with it, I can't wear nice tops anymore because it's so obvious. Wearing a bra is really uncomfortable, it's too small for the big breast and too big for the small breast.

Also as you can imagine I'm scared of having any kind of relationship at all. I tend to run away from men. I've never had a boyfriend in my life, unless you can count an online relationship I had. So that also makes me feel abnormal and...ugly.

So ladies (or men, even though you're not supposed to be in this forum) any advice? Is there anything that can be done? I obviously can't afford surgery and even if I could, I don't want bags of silicone in my breasts! No way! Unless there's another procedure they can do such as reducing the bigger breast a little and then inject fat into the smaller one, is that even possible?

Thank you in advance for taking your time to read this long post.

Keep your shirt on during sex. I do that most of the time because of other issues and my own comfort level. Guys generally will not care. They are happy to be getting action. So what if you want to wear a shirt, they are not thinking w/ the correct head anyway.

Can you go to a breast prosthetic shop. Purchase something that will help fill out both cups of a bra a little better.

I've seen stick on boobs at bra and undie shops. Madenform and Playtex and such. It is to be warn under a shirt or bathing suit. It is squishy and feels like and looks like a normal breast. It is a gel like substance and can be washed and re worn. They are made to even out the size or add to the size if you are not blessed in that area.

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You are not alone in this and as Big Mama mentions there are not only prosthetics (breast forms) that can be inserted into the bra is looking to fill out your figure if this might help to feel more comfortable in clothes; there are also special bras that have prosthetic or padding built into to one cup to help. These can be used for the situation as you describe and are also marketed to those that have underdone mastectomies, if this helps in your search for them.

In being comfortable with someone, it matters more how comfortable you feel with yourself. Do what you need to to find your level of comfort and confidence, whether it be revealing, wearing a shirt, or lights low or off. The right person will love you for you no matter your concern; also especially considering we are our own worst judges and tend to more critical of our bodies than our partners tend may be. What is painfully obvious to us and seemingly a problem or issue, may not be to someone else.
I hope you find what works best for you.

Depending on how different your breasts are, you might not have to go the full prosthetic route. I have some bras that have removable padding in them, so what you could do is buy a bra that fits your larger breast, take the padding out that side and leave it in on the smaller side.

Also depending on your size, you might have better luck finding bras online than in stores. And you're very right; lots of women struggle with this very issue. My sister is almost 30 and has the same problem. I've been trying to get her to get "really" sized for a bra so then she can actually buy some that fit...

Ive got an idea.

Go see an Endocrinologist, if you don't need a referral.

If you do need a referral, go see your OBGYN and have them run some tests

It is possible that either you are not fully developed or that you may have low levels of estrogen or thyroid hormone.

Hopefully this helps.

JHS

All good advice....

I am getting implants in a month..due to the fact that I feel disfigured in that area. It's taken me almost a decade to decide, and it's not an easy choice. However the surgeon did tell me that they can and do fat deposit into the breast. He said they usually take the fat from around the hip area and inject it. He said about 60% off the fat will stay put. So that may be a two step procedure I am not really sure. But you have to have some body fat for this to work. I would have went this route but I am recovering from an eating disorder. But this procedure seems far more appealing.

I understand the feelings tho. There are many many women with this issue. Actually almost no womems breasts are actually equal and I believe the surgeon told me it is almost always the left breast that has more volume.

And I just have to agree that what seems like a huge issue to us is very likely a non issue to someone else. It might even be what they like about us. For example..my ears stick out, was always teased about it as a kid...so hateing my ears all my life. My bf is always trying to get me to tuck my hair, he loves them and thinks they are cute..go figure. He has very large scars and and permanent skin problems from an illness, he feels awful about it..but to me he is beautiful and amazing..I cannot see what he sees about himself.

I hope you can find a way to work with this that allows you to feel good, beautiful and also open to a relationship.

My other idea is that you can buy implant sizers. This is what you use to decide the size of implants you want. Basically they are implant immitations. I tried them in many sizes to pick what I wanted but many women wear them for months to decide. It think this would be cheaper than prosethics if they were too costly.

Depending on the amount of difference in each breast this might work well. I have silicone forms ( like Big Mama mentioned) and they work well because you can also use them in a swimsuit without soaking up extra water. Swim suits usually have a liner..so I cut a small slit in the liner and insert the silicone form. It works well and no worry of it falling out or moving around. You can get silicone forms even at walmart for around ten bucks. Only thing is not much selection of sizes that I saw here.