Grief and intimacy in marriage

Hi
My husband and I have been married almost 7 months. We dated several years before that and were both virgins when we married each other. A couple months before our wedding, my husband's mother passed away to whom he was extremely close. Although his grief symptoms appear to have gotten some better (ie he has maybe one 20-30 minute sad spell a week versus all day every day as it was in the beginning). Anyways, my husband always talks about how great his mother is (and she was a wonderful person) and how she's the best at everything. Even when he's cried and talked about how sad his life is, ( he says these things when he's having a sad spell, otherwise he's peppy acting), he still wants to be intimate with me that night. He and I are living with his father until our house is finished, so that doesn't leave us much alone time until we go to bed. So my question is this; why does my husband want to be intimate even while he's grieving over his mother who he says is the "best person he's ever known?" Seems like he wouldn't feel like it. Trust me, I'm not complaining at all! I'm just curious about this. Thanks

The answer that comes to my mind, regarding how your husband can grieve and still want sex, is that he has a high sex drive.

Maybe he wants the closeness and comfort that sex brings.

Men's need for sex comes from a different place then where a woman's need for sex comes from. Men have sex to feel close and loved, we have sex after we feel close and loved. That is why men can have sex after a bad day at work, after an argument, when they are angry, when they are board, after a loss, or well just about anytime.

For us females our sexual drive is based more on feeling safe, loved, calm, happy, and all that, BEFORE we can have sex.

Although in general my sex drive is lower when I am depressed, it's not gone. I find times that I want it more to be held, to feel loved, to not feel so alone, more than just to get off.

People grieve in different ways. Your husband's way does not squelch his sex drive. This is good as that intimacy with you and feeling good from sex may help overall improve his mood.

It's a comfort for him....Sounds odd I know....But it's a way for him to feel life...

This doesn't sound weird to me at all. Fiance and I have been through some terribly traumatic stuff and tended to be grabbing each other at the first opportunity after. It's for reassurance and to feel closer.

I'm curious as well. Like one doesn't always have to always be in 1 state of mind. Emotions can come and go at any time. Did you talk to him about this? He could have his own reasons, or maybe not - communication is important in marriage