So scared

I'm 6 days late. And yes I'm sexually active. I've never been more than 4 days late before. I have been stressed out a lot lately and I haven't had a good night sleep all summer. Like I wake up several times during the night. My body keeps tricking me into thinking I'm about to start by giving me cramps but they end up being BM cramps instead of period cramps. My boyfriend and I have been super careful. We always use protection although I'm not on birth control. I'm scared that I might be pregnant again. I've already had one abortion and I don't want to go through that again but I can't bring a baby into this world.

I feel so stupid and useless and irresponsible and pathetic and scared. I just don't know what to do anymore. I just want to go away and never come back. Maybe sleep forever and never wake up.

I know many of y'all will be thinking that I am stupid and irresponsible but I just can't handle any judgement or negativity.

I think condoms only have a 2% failure rate or something, so you may not even be pregnant. If you are, then it is certainly your right to choose to terminate. No one should be judgmental of your decision. You are not stupid or pathetic!!!!

Maybe you should consider going on the pill or some other backup form of birth control. Cheaper and less stressful in the long run. You hang in there, big hug for you!!!!

KissFace,

Listen: Go to the grocery or drug store and buy a home pregnancy test. They're relatively cheap and relatively accurate. Test yourself. No matter the result, test yourself again in a week, unless your period has already started.

If you're embarrassed by this sort of thing, go to a store where you don't usually shop or even ask your boyfriend to do it. He's just as involved as you are.

If it turns out positive both times, make an appointment with your doctor or a woman's clinic. I see you live in Texas, which is a big state with not a lot of services available. Home pregnancy tests are a gift to women straight from science and heaven. Take advantage of them and it's likely your worries will be set aside. Faithful condom use is a highly effective form of birth control.

Don't worry yourself sick until or unless you know you have something to worry about. Stress can often delay a woman's period and you've been stressed a lot.

Once you get the results, no matter what it is, come back and tell us. You'll get plenty of support and encouragement to help you feel better about yourself. This could happen to any woman who's sexually active. Nobody will judge you harshly.

Don't beat yourself up over this! You guys are very smart for always using protection. It's better to find out than to be sitting there wondering. Like the above poster said, you should probably get a pregnancy test. The more you worry, the more you'll put off your period and convince yourself you're pregnant!

When I was younger, I messed around with a boy. With our clothes ON. And I was so silly and SO convinced I was pregnant. I got morning sickness, I got cramps, I missed my period... all from worrying!

So calm down, get a test. And even if you ARE pregnant.. stay calm, you're NOT pathetic and there is nothing bad or wrong with you!

So I took 2 tests. One last night and one this morning and they both said that I wasn't pregnant. But I got the generic $7 equate brand instead of like first response or clear blue. I don't know how accurate it is and I'm still a week late so I'm still not convinced...

When I was in my 20's I sometimes skipped a cycle entirely.

I've never missed before though except for the one time that I was pregnant a few months ago.

KissFace, the Equate brand is pretty good. Chances are you're not pregnant. If you still haven't started your period by next weekend, you might want to spend the extra money on the more expensive brand name test and retest yourself.

I often skipped cycles when I was young and felt half scared out of my wits. That was in the days before home pregnancy tests and you couldn't even get any kind of test until you were a month or six weeks overdue. Scary!

You have reason to feel distressed because not too long ago you went through a bad scene and your periods are usually regular. But you have been under a lot of stress and that can mess up the cycle on any woman. Chances are you are not pregnant. But, naturally, you want to know for sure.

I just googled the accuracy of Equate and other home pregnancy tests. All the articles say that it's important to follow the directions carefully and if you get a negative result and do not feel totally convinced, it's best to wait a few days to test again. If a woman is pregnant, that will give the pregnancy hormones time to build up to a level that will show on a test.

If you retest, don't drink extra fluid beforehand because that can dilute your urine. Make sure the stick is completely wet and read it within the proper length of time, usually 1-10 minutes.

If you don't get your period, you'll feel a lot better if you spring for the more expensive test. Hoping very much that you get the result you want!

I started my period last night. Thank y'all so much for the support and encouraging words.

I feel silly for overreacting and getting so worked up. My poor boyfriend is the one who has to pay the price when I get like that because I take it out on him.

Glad things worked out!

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If you are pregnant so its your baby and decision should be yours. My sister took a decision to have a baby and now she is very happy.