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Oct 02, 2014 at 12:21 PM
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So, my mother made the decision to cause me lifelong pain when I was six. Ever since the divorce, I've had many "mother figures" step in on my life, but all of them either disappeared after a couple of weeks or tried to control ever aspect of my life. I've grown to distrust and even still feel attracted (platonically) to women.
I'm 19, and during my high school time I experienced transference with a few of my female teachers...but I really strongly wished for one certain teacher to step in and be the mother who was never there. It's ridiculous and I've never admitted it to her, because I'm scared and embarassed, but lately I've had a lot of dreams where she swoops in and fixes all my problems. I can't confront my mom about my issues with her...I have a therapist, but I don't feel the same way, and I do talk to her about these issues. I don't have any other female family members. I guess what I'm asking is...what do I do?? |
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Oct 02, 2014 at 08:21 PM
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commotionec, I can empathize to some degree with what you are experiencing. My mother died when I was six, and I never had a mother figure. Feel free to PM me. I glad you have been able to discuss this with your therapist. We do have this social group http://forums.psychcentral.com/groups/adopt-mom.html if you are interested.
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Oct 06, 2014 at 11:43 AM
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I am sorry that you had to go through that. I sort of understand because my mother was an alcoholic and I never felt that I had a mother who could be there for me even though she was there in body. I had one aunt who took me in every summer while I was in school and for one summer a year I felt like I had a mother figure who cared. I found that finding good friendships helped. I knew that I could not find a real replacement mom but there will be people in your life who will listen and be nurturing. I wish you only the best
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