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Wise Elder
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May 22, 2007 at 04:57 PM
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I know I've "lost it!", but three years ago, I became involved with a man, and was wild about him...At age 53 at the time, I attempted to become intimate, and couldn't. I had remained abstinant for three years prior to this experience, and it frightened me, since I'd never, ever, had such a problem.
This really IS about the effects of menopause and aging, I guess, but I was unaware that such a thing could happen. I had stopped taking the HRT a couple of years prior because of the health risks, and didn't realize it would affect me sexually as it did. I was simply unable to have intercourse! I went to my OBGYN, really fearful that something bad was wrong, but he just said "Use it or lose it," in his Indian accent. The relationship didn't last...him rejecting me, and really humiliating for me at my age, and bringing me here to PC for help. I've recovered from it, but haven't allowed myself to have a single sexual thought since then...Know I've really lost it....."use it or lose it!" Patty |
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May 22, 2007 at 06:38 PM
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Do you mean that you could not have intercourse due to the lack of lubrication which can accompany menopause? Or was there some other issue?
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Wise Elder
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May 22, 2007 at 06:57 PM
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Lubricant didn't help, as I had shrunk so much! This is embarrassing to relate, but it seems with abstinance and forgetting about sexuality for a time after menopause, this seems to be the situation!
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May 22, 2007 at 08:09 PM
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Ummmm ... stating the obvious ... 'toys'?
you can play with different sizes ... etc ... I'd be heading right down to the local D-Vice! (sex toy shop here) |
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May 22, 2007 at 08:13 PM
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I was surgically forced into menopause at the ripe old age of 24. no hrt and no problems with the libido or lubricant either. guess I am pretty lucky that way. also what helps is finding someone that is really tender and loving. seems to really help me alot!
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May 23, 2007 at 12:00 AM
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patty, it's called atrophy and all you do is get a prescription for HRT cream.(it was very unprofessional for the doctor to say that, because that isn't the truth at all.) it isn't the same as taking the hormone. topical and the usage is twice a week. it restores all that matters and everything is comfortable again............p..s. of course the cream is very expensive.........
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