Have any of you ladies started over and managed to find love after 30?

I married my three years younger husband when I was 33. He truthfully was initially attracted by my appearance, but I'm not barbie by any stretch of the imagination. I was thin then and neat and clean. I can't think of any outstanding features. Now that I'm fat, my husband still loves me and is loyal to me. Seems to me you've got yourself in a real twist. Sure we all judge each other on appearance first, but only the shallowest of us will stop there. Stop comparing yourself to barbie for God's sake (her ginormous bobs will be at her waist by 50), and work on accepting yourself as you are. If you accept yourself then so will others -- even some barbie-seeking men. Sorry, not buying your negative view of half the human race.

I've had two loves in my life. The first wasn't until I reached age 45, the second aged 49.

I'm 34, no kids. nope. tried online dating... that's a weird world especially if you live in a small town (northern CA). I wish someone could say... you still have plenty of time but no. online dating... if you're in your early to mid 30s you get all the 50 year olds who want 20 somethings but bc they will appear creepy settle for the 30 somethings. plus , you have the stigma that if you're in your 30s and are single there must be something wrong with you.

I think you have a better chance if you live in a big city.

I just started reading this thread..I don't mean to be mean and trust me it isn't meant that way. but geriatric in your 30's to me was funny. I am 58 and just started dating a man that is 46. We really have a great time together. He is an awesome man. Your man will come hon. Trust me. I never thought I would find this kind of love in my life. just my 2 cents worth. Good luck and enjoy.

I'm 31 and I recently met my current girlfriend on an online dating site. She's 40. It's still early, but I'm crazy about her and hopeful for the future.

I am 50 and am engaged to an awesome man. I am the happiest I've ever been. I was married before and didn't think ill marry again but here I am. So yup it's all possible

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The year I turned 30 I broke up with my ex fiancé after 5 years together and vowed to avoid relationships for the remainder of the year. That was in February. In May I was asked on a date by a friend of a friend. I decided to go just for fun and to be social because it was pretty lonely loving by myself, but not expecting anything to really come of it. We fell in love and were married just 4 months later. We've now been together for 4 years and have two daughters, we are still as happy as we were the day we met.

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When I was 27 I lived with a Japanese corporate art broker who was 22 years my senior. We travelled, did business, alienated my friends and family and had the most sex I've ever had in my life. My mom hated her and talked **** about the "dragon lady", until one day my mom saw a good snap of my squeeze. All she subsequently asked and talked about was my girlfriend's expensive and striking cosmetics regimen and the mysterious bags of Chinese herbs she purchased every week from a small store in an Alley in Manhattan's Chinatown.

I've three kids and recently crossed the 40's line. The flirtations from many men is astounding. The question isn't so much, do they want me, but do I even have the time?

Hope isn't remotely lost

Im mid thirties,I look much younger you can see my profile pics,i have had my heartbroken but I have not given up finding the one.

I've had to start over so many times, I have adhd and got bored with relationships and either ended them by leaving abruptly (leaving all possessions behind) or cheating (only once) and that resulted in immediate breakup and again, losing everything (including custody of my child because i had no car, no job nor a permanent place to stay). Custody loss wasn't 100% legal involving lawyers, she went to stay with grandparents. Any way, I found a good guy after moving 3 states away, we knew after the second visit that there was some magic happening. We've been together since and plan to be very long term I'm 33, we met when I was 30, but yes, to answer your question, it is possible and finding the right one does happen. I think me finding a really good guy at a later age is healthier and more serious/mature. Because you know what you want and don't want so that gives you a benefit to weed out the bad or not as desirable guys.
But that's my two cents!