Overly self conscious.

Hello all, I'm going to approach a sensitive subject for not only me, but probably many more on this topic. So I'll introduce myself and the "issues" face.
I'm 33, relatively thin figure, have a child etc, so needless to say I have the "mom" bod and I'm sooo self conscious about it. I wasn't as self conscious before my child was born, her dad did see the "before, during and after" pregnancy body, but we aren't together anymore. Now let's fast forward to now and what I worry about. For starters, I have asymmetrical breasts (that pregnancy swelling did a number on to say the least.) I feel like they're so ugly. I have been in a very serious relationship for 3 years and have never been comfortable enough to strip down completely in front of him (and he has never pressured me to either, nor ever given me a reason to feel self conscious.) I even wear a sports bra to bed. I've always had a low self esteem too and recently found out I have adult ADHD. And would like to discuss something else without getting too personal, but there's a part of me that's also self conscious of "the downstairs area". That also changed after my pregnancy (I was always self conscious about it anyway cause I think it's ugly too). Anyway, if anyone else feels the same way, or have some tips on how to deal with or over come these issues/concerns I'd be grateful I never have discussed this in depth with my bf. He knows I'm a bit self conscious (if not more that just a bit) but again, I've never talked about it openly.

Well I don't think anyone has the 'perfect' body first of all, but I think what you are describing is maybe more symptomatic of a self-esteem issue. There is a self-esteem forum here, and links to articles

In terms of what you might do to feel more confident about your body, some suggestions you might like to try (this is some stuff that worked for me):

1) Exercise. Whatever exercise makes you feel good, be it yoga, swimming, running, gym work-outs. Exercise will improve your tone and fitness and very likely your confidence too - you may learn a new respect for your body as you realise what it is capable of. If you can find a bunch of like minded ladies to work out with so much the better, mutual moral support is worth a lot and also confidence boosting.

2) Eat well. Good nourishing food, your body will thrive on it.

3) Pamper yourself, whether it's a pedicure while watching a good movie or some nice body lotion to make your skin feel softer, or some make-up, or a new hair style. Pampering yourself makes you feel nurtured, and well groomed, that can make you feel more confident too.

* I do share your opinion of 'downstairs' by the way, but then I'm a straight woman, straight men definitely have a more positive attraction. We just don't see it the same way. Trust his judgement on this one.

Ill definitely look into the self esteem forum, I know that's a big part of why I don't like how I look. I'd love to join a workout group someday soon, I'll probably buy a membership when I start working again.
Thanks for your tips!!!!