Any other virgins out there?

Hi again-I'm 48 and a proud virgin! I don't know if I'm missing anything by not having had sex-I've been in love and had raging hormones but no further.

ocd chick

well im 15 and plan on dying a virgin..

o/ .. sorta :-/

I am 20 and have been married for 4 years but have been having sex longer. It was great. But now that i don't really do it anymore because i just can't get things going it feel uncomfortable. If you found your true love/soulmate and didn't make love to them you would be missing out because it is beyond great. Their is a connection so deep. I would be afraid of having sex with random people because of all the std's out their and how so many people have them. If you masturbate and are happy with it then their is no reason to have sex i guess.

Hi OCD,

At 48 and a virgin... that is fabulous. Hats off to you for waiting. I hope that others do not make fun of you because you show great strength in not "giving in". I think that you are amazing. Gabriel and EsthersVirtue, the same goes for you. There is absolutely nothing wrong with holding onto your virginity. I am happy that you think so also.

Peacemaker
Sherri

gabe - youre only 15? from reading your posts i would have guessed older than that. sadly, i lost my virginity when i was 15. and after that it was kinda like "screw it, its already gone. why not?" i wish i could have changed who i lost it to and i would have kept it longer. im not sure i could wait 48 years lol but congrats for you to be able to.

I am! I'm 15, too though.

me. but im 16. and a lesbian. and ugly [and, ahem, no self esteem to speak of].

im 20 and have my V card....might be turning it in soon tho

I'm 15, and I'm a virgin. To be honest, I can't say I have much value for the virginity thing... But I will likely remain a virgin for a good many years because I don't date.

Hey guys i am 23 years old and i am a virgin. I have had 1 boyfriend from the ages of 12-14 years old and he turned out gay. Says a lot for me eh?

I am unsure of what i am i love men and i like girls. I have no clue what the h!!! i am. All i know is that no-one finds me attractive. I kissed a guy i randomly met about 6 months back and i felt sick afterwards. I put it down to the alcohol i was drinking. But i don't think it was that. I have more female mates than guys. When i was younger it was always more guy mates than girls. I find several females outwith my group of friends attractive. But i put that down to a crush. However i think about them quite a lot. I get a bit giddy around them too. God whats wrong with me.

20 yr. old virgin. I don't plan on losing it anytime soon

Good plan--hold tight to that!

laura dont you worry. its better to wait and sort yourself out than rush in and do someting you regret. i myself lost my virginity at 15 and still regret it as i wasnt with the best partner in the world.

the fact that you went out with a gay man means nothing. ive been out with someone who hurt me alot, (mainly emotionally), a man 16 years older than me, ( i ws 15 at the time) and a guy who turned out to be gay.

that was not your fault it was noones. i think it would be better to try and figure out what yo want before u go for anyting. but whatever you want thats ok. wether you like women or men or both. all of its normal. so take your time. you have plenty of it and it will be so much nicer if you find wht you want before u lose it.

some of us didn't have a choice. if i could have chosen, i would have lost it to my current partner at age 19. that moment felt so right.

peace and respect to all of you,
twilight

I'm a virgin at 26 and an asexual and I feel as though I'm not missing out much either!

Lost it at 17, and don't really see the big deal in having various sexual partners (I'm not talking huge numbers here) as long as you are both being very safe and enjoying yourselves. For those who have remained virgins... I can imagine there can be many issues-- past trauma, waiting until marriage, not interested, etc.-- what are some of your reasons for abstaining/waiting?

16, still a virgin.
I'm not really waiting for Marriage,
so much as i have a slight phobia of sex.
;__;

sex is something to wait for
better to be waiting
than thinking
what the hell've i done?!
and if someones good enough to wait till you're ready;
theyre more likely to be good enough to take it when you are

It's worth the wait. There's no time limit or anything. Just when you feel you are really ready and with the right partner.

I feel exactly the same way! Well said!

Ive only recently lost mine (im 23), and part of me regrets it.

I didn't have any issues/wanting to keep my virginity type thing.
But think i made a wrong choice in the guy.(he was great to start with, but now im doubting him) I think it was a combination of him talking me into it, him being the first guy that showed any attention to me that way, him saying the right things, and the heat of the moment. I was in over my head.

For those who are still virgins, be in love. And make sure the guy is trustworthy and isn't just wanting sex - not by just telling you he doesnt, make him prove it somehow. right now, im starting to believe all men lie. thanks to just one man.

don't beat yourself up about it, really. lots and lots of people, probably the majority, lose their virginity to some guy who turns out to be somewhere on the scale from "incompatible" to "a-hole" and is therefore the wrong guy. i personally don't think it matters much at all who you lose it to as long as the person you stay with is a good one.