Secrets Every man should know (Because I know they read this board)

1. Womyn need to hear that what we've said has been understood!

You don't think guys need this too?

I do.

Let's start a list as there is one in the men's forum.

I've got one:

Don't tell us what you think we want to hear to avoid conflict. The truth is always better.

Unless the truth is that my butt DOES look big in these jeans....then lie, and kiss me.

Just because I tell you about a problem does not mean you need to fix it...try just listening...and maybe give me a hug. Generally, I know how to fix it, I just want some support and understanding.

true.

just cuz you are happily in love with us doesnt mean were happily in love with u.

sorry guys, but thats how it was with my ex for about 6 months.

so long cuz i couldnt bear to hurt him

yick

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I've got one...how about pure acceptance of who we are and what makes us tick?

Be genuinely interested in your partner as a person and in her life. Talk to her about her life--her job & career, the kids, her hobbies, her hopes and dreams, the books and movies she likes, etc. Ask her questions about herself, like how her day was. Don't let the conversation be all one way (all about you). If you are not truly interested in her and her ideas and opinions, beyond the fact that she is cute or funny or good in bed, save her some pain and don't get seriously involved.

sunrise - good one!

i got one - when were out at the mall, or just anywhere walking around, if you have to FORCE yourself not to look at those hot girls walking around, DO IT! I don't want to look at you to say something and see you looking at other girls. I know some women don't have a problem with it but I do.

um...realistically (maybe more ideally) just give us what we want and we'll be nice ...kidding.

No, for real, the only thing I can recommend is to be sympathetic to her, especially when she's needing it.

1 be kind to us
2 care
3 talk
4 listen
5 gives hope when there is not any, cause sometimes alittle delution for awhile is good
6 smile
7 know we care
8 not all women are cranky

9. if we are in a bad mood DO NOT SAY "what.. are you on your period?" If were mad that does NOT mean that we're bleeding!!

10. If we cry, don't get freaked out or think it has to be about you or that you've done something wrong. Crying relieves stress and shedding a few tears can do wonders to improve mood--maybe it was a hard day at the office or with 3 screaming kids, that's all. (But if we cry right after an orgasm, it means it was REALLY, REALLY, GOOD!!!)

I am not for sure if this one is one here or not - for I have not read the entire thread.........

Give her time away with her girl friends (ladies night out) at least once a week with out making her feel guilty for leaving you alone...... for she will be a better person when she returns (refreshed and ready for life... and you ).

Heck yes. I had girl time today with my best friend. We drank Starbucks and ordered chinese food, and just sat and talked. I needed it so bad. When we made the plans yesterday morning, it made my whole day good.

Get to know Me. Our relationship is not like any other relationship you have had and you can't read articles or books about "women" to know what makes me tick.

13 know that we are trying so hard to understand you too
14 we make mistakes too
15 that sometimes in our eyes "we may not show it" you are our heros

16 sometimes we appear strong , know we are not always and are trying our best

16 oh and going out to dinner can be a good thing LOL

Please acknowledge us when we speak to YOU.

....... even if it is just to say: Hmmm or Ummm.

18 know that sometimes deep in our souls we are as scared as you
19 we soemtimes get mad for no reason, but I am always sorry after
20 we are all human
21 life does not come with a manual so we are all playing it by ear too

22 biggest secret is we just want to be happy too